[carmen]

Hi guys, thank you very much for your advice. For some reason I couldn't see that there had been replies to my post, which explains this rather belated response.

I am digesting all that you've said. Looks like the only way is out, huh.

He can watch it three times a day because he's a university lecturer. Always hiding behind his computer on the pretext of 'research'. He is very defensive about the whole i should respect his privacy thing. even told me he could call the police when i checked his phone in the past.

I've to admit that I started watching porn because of the lack of sex in our relationship. Initially I felt very angry with him, for leading me to this warped 'solution', but these days I don't look at it anymore and can't be bothered.