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Old 24th August 2009, 01:14 PM   #9
Raymond
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Re: Please help me sort this

I think it is all in his head Purple Lady. It is not a nice or wise thing to say to you.

I question a little that you say everything you are is because of him. That would make you co dependent on him and imply that you have nothing in yourself. Obviously we need our spouses and everyone needs people but we still retain our individuality which is the part we bring to the marriage. I am sure you bring your worth to the marriage and you should recognise that. The relationship is the sum of what you both bring to it. I think if you saw it like that things would change for the better.

My thought is to work on yourself and have some individual interests. This would make your contribution a bit more interesting perhaps? I don't know.

Whilst it is right that he should love you one can make it more interesting? I hope I am not barking up the wrong tree here, it's just that phrase "everything I am is because of him".

Raymond
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