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Old 16th June 2006, 06:36 AM   #10
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Re: will wife cheat again

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"will see keep on seeing him if she can"
Only if you allow it too. Look at your situation and ask yourself if you are willing to settle for this.

You can't change what you don't acknowledge. First, acknowledge that there is something wrong. If what is happening isn't normal, admit it. You need to set some new standards of acceptable behavior and your wife needs to know what those standards are. Remember that you teach people how to treat you. Your wife is doing what she is doing because they can. If you're allowing the behavior to continue by blaming yourself, stop. If you want to be treated with dignity and respect, stand up and require it.

Let her know how the way things are going is uncomfortable for you, That it is time to stop playing games. That is what it is for using what you did many many years ago as a excuse, that is like grounding your child at the age of 12 for something they did when they was five.
All it is a excuse to get away with what she is doing.

Stand firm and say that you love her and want to make the marriage right and the first thing that needs to be done is firmly say no more contact with the other man, no excuses, no phone calls, nothing. All contacts must come to a stop immediately. There is no more second chances if she does, cause it is not showing any respect to your marriage. That you will leave before you allow her to continue.

Start the road to your recovery, meet each others needs, start communication. Turn toward your partner to fix the problems, stay tuned into each others feeling.

There is no promises that she will quit. Yes she can and keep her promises but it is all up to her.
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