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Old 16th June 2011, 06:51 PM   #8
Raymond
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Re: Quarterly "news" about marriage

I found this research an eye opener to me:

David Popenoe, PhD
Professor of Sociology
Rutgers University
U.S.A.

The idea is spreading that, if a child has two parents, it makes no difference whether or not those parents are married. Parents are parents, the argument goes, regardless of the possession by some of what is referred to as "just a piece of paper"--the marriage license. But this idea is far from the truth. In general, the relationship of married parents differs significantly from that of unmarried cohabiting parents, and the difference has substantial consequences both for the couple and for their children.

It has been found that the two groups have quite different preferences and expectations. Compared to the marrieds, the unmarrieds have:

A lower level of commitment to each other, and less reluctance to consider a possible breakup

A shorter time horizon in their life planning

Less merging of their financial, social, emotional, and work lives

Less sexual exclusivity

Associated with this difference, according to numerous studies, are the following facts. The unmarrieds:

Are 50% more likely to break up

Have much higher rates of spousal abuse

Live at a lower economic level

Have lower levels of happiness (both men and women), and derive fewer physical and mental health benefits from the relationship

Receive less help from their extended families

Have worse sex lives

The consequences of these circumstances for children are remarkable. The children of unmarried parents:

Have fewer economic resources
Receive less parenting from their fathers

Face a much greater risk of parental break-up, leading to two to three times the risk of having serious social problems when they become adolescents and young adults, such as juveniles delinquency and teenage out-of-wedlock childbearing
If the father is biologically unrelated to the child, which is much more often the case in unmarried families, the child is no better off than living with a single mother. And, compared to a child living with two natural parents, the child is much more in danger of being seriously abused both sexually and physically.

It is estimated that almost half of children growing up today will spend some time living with an unmarried, cohabiting couple. This should be considered a national tragedy. For our nation's children, one of the worst things that could befall them would be a continuation of the current shift away from marriage.
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