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Raymond · 17th November 2009, 07:08 PM

There is no way forward if you say there is no way forward Coolicrumble. You are confessing something and believing it and making it so.

Nobody said it would be instant. As said before trust is the thing that takes the longest to build but can be broken the quickest. If you see that it is possible for the trust to increase gradually over time there is hope. You seem to be a person that finds it very hard to forgive where somebody has repented of their wrong doing. People can do wrong, repent and get it right. Many learn from their wrongdoing.

If you can never forgive the marriage does seem to be over, but that will be a choice that you have made. It was his fault in the first place but if he has repented and wants to make it up to you then your forgiveness is now the biggest barrier. If you are unable to forgive, yes, it seems that the marriage is over.

Raymond

17th November 2009, 07:08 PM	#48
Raymond Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,409	Re: just found out husband is having an affair need help There is no way forward if you say there is no way forward Coolicrumble. You are confessing something and believing it and making it so. Nobody said it would be instant. As said before trust is the thing that takes the longest to build but can be broken the quickest. If you see that it is possible for the trust to increase gradually over time there is hope. You seem to be a person that finds it very hard to forgive where somebody has repented of their wrong doing. People can do wrong, repent and get it right. Many learn from their wrongdoing. If you can never forgive the marriage does seem to be over, but that will be a choice that you have made. It was his fault in the first place but if he has repented and wants to make it up to you then your forgiveness is now the biggest barrier. If you are unable to forgive, yes, it seems that the marriage is over. Raymond