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Old 20th August 2010, 05:32 PM   #18
Helen_uk
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Re: Love without physical attraction?

Well I guess you need to show him it is a problem because it's causing a problem with intimacy between the two of you.

Sounds like during his childhood he got used to not getting too attached to things , if he was always moving around with his family he probably had to keep his possession's light. Living in third world countries with all the poverty around must leave an impression on a young mind.

Maybe he has also lost friends because of the constant moving and so found it easier to disassociate from people.... Without seeking professional guidance on it, it's hard to say.

The mind is a very strange thing and to him it all probably seems very normal , and for him it is. It's a problem only because it's stopping you both having a fulfilled marriage.

Of course he may just have a low sex drive and men who use / have used porn quite often do. Porn is so easy, no having to please another person, simple self gratification and no boundaries. Simple click of the mouse and it's all laid out in front of you.... It's lazy sex.

It could be a lot of things and getting to the bottom of it won't be easy without his cooperation. As you say the other areas of your marriage are pretty good, I'd think it would be worth trying to sort it out.

Helen
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