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Old 11th June 2013, 04:36 PM   #13
1aokgal
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Re: Porn addiction - Leave him?

Dear Carmen..

You are 35, and that is the best time in your life! He threatens to call the police, he is hostile and insults you about your "inadequacies!" You knew from the very beginning this marriage/relationship was not right and did not contain sex for you. It does contain sex for him, either by himself, or with someone since he is actively is on the prowl with the sites. You don't need to be hit over the head, do you, that your life has taken a serious downward spiral and you deserve better?

Confront your husband about his behavior and what expectations you have for your marriage. Put him to the test. If he postures and gives you excuses and denials, get your skills together, and make better plans for your life. Perhaps you should set up a conselling appointment for yourself to deal with what this behavior has done to your confidence. Did you think he was a big deal because of his position? Forgive me for saying this, but there has to be some tradeoff you get to remain in a marriage with a man who won't have sex with you?

I hope you realize that your biological clock is running? Don't even consider having a child where love is absent. You are roomates, and get a regular dose of reasons he doesn't meet your needs. He tells you the "No sex" is your fault. Life is too short to waste. It also should be a great concern to you that he has searches for swingers groups and mature sex sites. Next he might suggest that the two of you visit swingers clubs. That search of his should tell you there is moral fiber missing there. Maybe there is a great love story in your life, if you make better decisions. Give him chance and make a decision to have more for yourself.

Last edited by 1aokgal; 11th June 2013 at 04:43 PM.
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