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Originally Posted by chosen
Snowmike, I am glad that you are feeling better, but please be careful. A man who is an expert on divorce and remarriage, and who has counselled countless people going through what you are, says that it takes 2-3 years to be ready for another relationship, and that is after the divorce. So many second marriages fail because people rush into them far too soon. You may not be intending to get serious, but you dont know what will happen and just because you dont want a serious relationship, many of the women you are meeting may be looking for just that and may get very hurt.
Can you not go out with male friends or a group? Or take up an interesting hobby or sport?
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Update - I have met 3 nice women and have got intimate with 2 of them. I have made it clear to all 3 that I am unable to commit to anyone at this time and that I am meeting other women and I am just having a bit of fun and enjoying some female company and they can take it or leave it. I am being completely honest and upfront. I can't do more than that. All 3 continue to meet up with me.
My wife has moved out a week ago and it has been sad - very sad. I have been unable to spend a whole evening in my house for almost 3 weeks - I just can't face it and whilst I am having fun, there is no doubt I doing this as a distraction to what is really happening in my life.
Seeing male friends or taking up a sport would not be enough to take away the sad feelings I have....
**** happens and I will get over it, but it is not easy. This is my therapy. It is the only way I have found to make me feel better. I will continue to move on - onwards and upwards.
