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Old 3rd May 2012, 12:59 PM   #68
Raymond
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Re: How do I trust him again?

The situation here is that we have a husband who has had an affair but is repentant about it and is trying to be as open as he can with Sammie and restore the trust. For us to say he cannot be trusted undermines the whole effort and undermines Sammies attempt to forgive, forget and to cease playback. For the marriage to be successful Sammies trust has to be restored. If we say he cannot be trusted what is the point of everything. Are we not adding to the fears that Sammie already has? I know of marriages like this that are restored and there is hope if everything that is needed is in place.

I think Chosen is right about the boundaries in relationship with the opposite sex at work. It is wrong to think that flirting has to be a part of it. That is asking for trouble. One can be friendly without flirting or giving women ideas about the other. I am sure that sorting this out would help increase the trust.
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