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Old 20th April 2011, 08:38 AM   #50
Raymond
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Re: Make love to your wife or masturbate ??? my husband prefers the later choice

I have heard and read about this before Carla. Some men are capable of fantasising in their minds and doing solo mb with it. I would say it is a form of mental adultery if the fantasies are about others. Do you know if he ever uses porn from the computer? Even if he doesn't this can be quite potent because of his imagination. I think that any sexual fantasies should only be about our wives and not others. That would rule out solo mb as if she is there in flesh and blood what is the point? This is more potent than some realise and can lead to wrong actions in some cases.

The only way around it would be for him to correct his mental habits and not indulge it. It is a diversion of the normal sexual drive and can be addictive. It is hard to get good advice on this as many say it is harmless when it is not. Until he knows it is wrong it will be hard for him to get the motivation to stop. You are not the first to mention this. It has been a feature on the sexless marriage thread.

The problem is that it is all in his head and there is nothing definite to prove so it will just be a case of him being faithful to his conscience and beating the problem.
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