[Raymond]

Purple Lady there are boundaries. Whatever this lady's problems are, your marriage is sacrosanct. She has been on the edge of adultery with your husband and your top priority is your marriage.

I wouldn't normally say this but her problems are not your problems. You and your husband are not the people who should be dealing with this because of the association she has with your husband.

There will be plenty of other people to counsel her for her mistakes. Neither of you should get involved. Make sure you have a clean break from her and don't be tempted to counsel her and certainly not your husband. Also don't feel sorry for her as that could leave an opening that would not be healthy.

You would not be using malice here, simply common sense in view of the circumstances

Raymond