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SuzyQzz 10th April 2017 09:34 AM

Just need some tips..
 
Hi all,

I've been married twice, still married to the second husband, but I can begin to feel things changing and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared of what's going to happen. I'm 52, I don't want another divorce looming over my shoulder. My daughter is helping me tremendously, she's expecting currently so that's something to look forward to. My first grandchild! (Just a quick question - she's in need of a good pram - any suggestions?)
We've been drifting apart and rather malliciously too, instead of just spending time away from each other, my husband has made it known that he's going to be spending a day away on purpose. He'll just be nasty about it. Does he hate me? Could he be cheating? I don't know. We've been married for 5 years, together for 10... I should know what's going on, but I don't. Thanks for any help suggested.

Raymond 10th April 2017 04:54 PM

Re: Just need some tips..
 
Hi Suzy. Way back my wife got a few prams from the local newspaper ads but these days probably e bay might be the best bet. Sometimes shops still put up cards for things like that.

With regard to your marriage I have no crystal ball as to what is going on but it does seem as if there may be a problem. If he is cheating you will soon find out if you keep your eyes and ears to the ground. Give him enough rope without hassling him and you will know. Hopefully it is not that and he just needs to get away to think or something or just to have me time. He should be able to share with you on this but you say he is being nasty about it. I think you are entitled to know what is going on even if it means adjustments may have to be made in the marriage. I can't see any way fowrard but to ask him nicely what is the problem. Not sharing things is not healthy for a marriage. If he wants a healthy marriage he should share what is going on.

SuzyQzz 11th April 2017 09:38 AM

Re: Just need some tips..
 
Thanks for the reply, Raymond.

Regarding the pram thing - a friend of mine said the site prams.net is good. Looks like they ship instead of me and my daughter having to collect which is very handy indeed!

See I wish I did have a crystal ball haha, I do want to sit him down and have a chat about what might be going on, it's just finding the right time... he is usually good at communicating, so I'm slightly worried about what might be going on as well. But yes. I'll talk to him and get back to you on how it went.

Raymond 11th April 2017 10:49 AM

Re: Just need some tips..
 
Glad you found a pram site Suzy. Yes have the talk. Have a thought that might be helpful or not. Instead of eye ball to eye ball putting him too much on the spot try and talk with him when you are at his side, like going for a walk or something. That might be less intimidating especially as you are not sure of what is going on. He may feel more at ease to talk at those times.

chosen 13th April 2017 01:55 PM

Re: Just need some tips..
 
Has he been married before and if so why did that marriage end?

My second grandchild is due next week, its very exciting isnt it.


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