the fire went out

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I've been married to my husband for 18 years and the last few years have been bad. I mean there is just no affection,or butterfly in the stomach feelings for a long long time. He dosen't really kiss me (Really kiss me like making out) Just a short kiss when he leaves for work...donsn't really tell me he loves me... no hand holding etc...you get the picture.We don't "make love we just have sex... We are very busy people we own and run our own business so we work together. we have 2 children 15 and 10 who are very busy with sports and school so we are always busy with that....but I need more...I told him i wanted to be hugged everyday and kissed and told i love you....it lasted a week or so and now it's the same...I am not happy and I don't want to leave him or anything because I owe it to my children to have a complete family... I feel I am sacrificing my happiness for my children and I am staying together for the kids... We don't really fight that much with eachother I am just sad any advice from anyone??I really need some.

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Gosh what busy lives you both have, I bet you are both too worn out to give each other much TLC and as a result you maybe feel taken for granted. Can you talk to your Husband about priorities in life, like maybe finding some nice time to be together just for each other, what do you each do for fun, what did you used to do, what would you like to do, always interesting to take up something new now and again, is there something you can do together, even taking an interest in each others day to day events or problems etc might help, become best friends again ... Hope that helps, best wishes Rab