Surviving Infidelity

[suzie]

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[Liz]

Dear Suzie

It takes time to recover from infidelity and if this incident was that recent then you are likely to still be upset.

You may find a couple of articles on the site helpful. There is one on forgiveness (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/relbasictopic/forgive/) and one on learning to trust again (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/relbasictopic/trust/).

Some of the battle is in your mind - when you start thinking of catching them together try and think of some good times you had together and crowd the other images out of your mind. As you feel more secure with each other, hopefully these other images will fade. I believe that one of the things many people struggle with is wanting to relive what has happened in their mind in an attempt to make sense of it. Sometimes it helps to accept that some things in life may never make sense and try and let go.

In the infidelity section (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/) you will also find articles about how people can come to terms with affairs - you could have a look there too.

Hang on in there,

Liz

[suzie]

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[suzie]

I thought that I would give some positive feedback, as your site helped me at the lowest time of our marriage breakdown.

Me and my husband are still together and after a course of relationship councelling sessions I think that our marriage is actually better than it has been for years! (pre-kids!!) We are more honest about our feelings which in turn causes more 'arguements' but this only means that the air is then clear and we are not harbouring bad feelings toward each other. We have been back together now for six months and I urge anyone in a similar situation to seriously think about Relate/relationship councelling before they split up. We found it helped in both our individual lives as well, we are more assertive and honest and have a clearer view of life and relationships in general.

Thank you 2 in 1.

[rhian]

It must have been awful finding your husband in such a compromising situation. He must take responsibility and STOP any contact with this woman so your marriage has a fighting chance. I know its difficult, have been there, but try to stop imagining him with this woman and what they did, talked about etc. What is important is your family and your marriage not this bint, there are plenty of them around! Stay strong and keep talking. Have a night that's just for you 2, cook a meal, go for a drink, watch a film, but make the evening just about you. Good luck and hope your husband has seen sense - men are easily flattered by a new woman paying attention to them, and can easily have there head turned but you turn it back girl, and remember he married you and fight to regain/keep that love. x