Iam married to a bipolor man wanting a divorce

[blondee1964]

PLease I need help, me and my husband are seperated in the house as we have no where to go, we both i think want a divorce Iam not sure,,
Iam told by hundreds of people to get out while I can for the bipolor person is dangerous and abusive,yes I have seen it,,the quilty of my life is nothing like it used to be, he has verabley abused me called the police on me,called cps on me with false imformation well I have HAD IT I no longer feel for this person like I use to, he is nuts and off his rocker, with that all said what should I do try to indure more, or get out when I can?
if anyone has any experiance with a bipolor person what would you do ???everyone says get out!!
I have a 2 year old baby daughter that loves her daddy.
I need all help I can get I am a chirstain women and he does not take us to church I am very sad about that too. I feel I am living a night mare he used god to get me and I feel stupid for falling for it..
Brenda

[Dave]

It is difficult to advise without lots more facts, especially where there is real abuse involved - you should not put yourself or your child in physical danger.

I wonder if you are aware of the support groups available for carers and spouses of those suffering from bi-polar disorder.
http://www.gtonline.net/community/mindinfo/bipolar.htm has a list of local Bipolar Disorder support groups - there may well be one listed there that is near you. The national umbrella organisation's details can be found here:
http://www.doh.gov.uk/mentalhealthcontact/index.htm
The web site for the Manic Depression fellowship is at http://www.mdf.org.uk
I think they are the best people to go to for help, as they will really understand what you are going through and what strategies will help you cope.

Having said that, there are always loads of voices that say "Get out" whenever there are problems in marriage. As a Christian, you know that God loves you, and your husband, just as you are. Just maybe God is challenging you to love your husband as much as He does - hubby is a sad broken damaged person who needs love and healing, not rejection. Can you hold in your head a picture of the man you loved and married rather than the man he has become. We are all damaged goods - God hasn't finished with him yet.