losing husband

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My husband and son are my life. I have done things that I am not proud of. I have never cheated on him, but I have been a horrible wife. I never realized how bad I was until now. I have been very controlling and snappy with him. I guess you can say I treated him like a dog. I see now that love is not shown that way and I have decided to change. However, he has told me that he is leaving, he believes that I won't change and he says that he doesn't love me anymore, he is very angry with me. I have not always been this way, just since my best friend died about 2 yrs ago. I never stopped loving my husband I just did not want to be hurt again. I want to save my marriage, but he says he soes not want to try anymore. How can I get him to see that I am sincere because I truly am. Please help me.

[Dave]

Maybe the best clue lies in your own words - you say you WILL change - my advice is simple - stop talking and ACT!!

You say you have been controlling, well stop - let go, but not to manipulate or test - you have to trust your husband completely and let him make his own decision. All you can do is to start to act really responsibly and lovingly towards him. At the right time, you may want to ask his forgiveness for the way you have been - but again, you will need to trust and not crowd him for an answer.

Try getting hold of Divorce Remedy (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/books/divorceremedy/) - it sets out a whole strategy that you can put into action on your own to win back your man.