marriage advice

[maiden]

is there really no-one out there who can advice me on what to do when i sat down and talked to my husband he said the best to describe what had happened was there was a whole puzzle and the it was as if someone came along and started to take away some of the pieces, can this puzzle be put back together and if so where do we start, we have always been so good together both physically and mentally , we still enjoy each others company when he comes round

[Liz]

Dear Maiden,

We have replied to one of your postings. There were several of them and Kate replied here (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?threadid=827).

It's easier for people to keep track of your postings if you follow a thread, ie, return to one series of postings and add replies rather than posting a new one each time.

Sometimes when a couple get married they go through a stage of disillusionment. In the courting phase they have shut out all their partner's faults and seen their relationship through rose coloured glasses. After a time they begin to see things as they really are but which may be disappointing. It's hard to know what to do when faced with this - perhaps it does seem like someone has stolen a key piece of the jigsaw. Often the answer is to face the fact that neither of you are perfect and that there will be times of disappointment, but that we can decide to love each other even when we don't feel so positive. It's deciding to act lovingly and accept each other, warts and all, that brings the true joy in marriage - when we no longer have to pretend, but know ourselves accepted just the way we are.

Have a look at what Kate wrote and then come back to us if you have more specific questions.

All the best

Liz