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21st August 2002, 09:15 PM
Where do I begin? History, I have come from a family where my mother and father called each other every name in the book in front of us growing up. There relationship was violent, but never physically violent. Now it's my turn. Been married for 10 years. After we got married I found out everything he told me
about himself was a lie. From where he went to high school to him not completing college ect..
Then he began to go out all night drinking with the guys after work. After a year of this he finally stopped. He began to drink again on weekends. He didn't know when to stop from Friday to Sunday. After 7 years of this he has stopped drinking . Three years ago at the age of 31 I had a stroke due to lyme disease in my brain. He was not there for me at all. Not at the hospital or during the previous two years of me being sick from the lyme disease. He
moved me a state away from my family, while I had four children. Three under the age of four during all of this. I really need friends and family help, but he said he was sick of seeing them all the time. HELLO! I was sick!
He has been mentally abusive to me. He has done things in front of the children. He has never hit me. He did once throw a trash can at me in front of my teenage son. He has spit on me several times when he is mad. I have finally desided I want out!!!!! I can't take the fighting another minute. My children now treat me like crap. They will think nothing of screaming at me, like he does. The think nothing of telling me no. He has now swore he is going
to change. He has swore that he see's all the mental abuse he has put me through and that he loves me with all of his heart and really wants to change. All he talks about is how or when I am going to feel the same about him. Right now I am sick of talking about any of it! I don't even know if I want to change anything. I am scared to death to leave, because I do believe he loves me. He is a wonderful father and my whole family loves him. He does
little things like notices even when I wear a different shade of eye shadow. However, he has lowered my self esteem. I am so afraid to make a go of it on my own and find out I have made a mistake. We have done marriage counceling 3X and he has never changed. I don't want to do it again. Please give me some advise, since my family think I am nuts to leave such a wonderful man.
about himself was a lie. From where he went to high school to him not completing college ect..
Then he began to go out all night drinking with the guys after work. After a year of this he finally stopped. He began to drink again on weekends. He didn't know when to stop from Friday to Sunday. After 7 years of this he has stopped drinking . Three years ago at the age of 31 I had a stroke due to lyme disease in my brain. He was not there for me at all. Not at the hospital or during the previous two years of me being sick from the lyme disease. He
moved me a state away from my family, while I had four children. Three under the age of four during all of this. I really need friends and family help, but he said he was sick of seeing them all the time. HELLO! I was sick!
He has been mentally abusive to me. He has done things in front of the children. He has never hit me. He did once throw a trash can at me in front of my teenage son. He has spit on me several times when he is mad. I have finally desided I want out!!!!! I can't take the fighting another minute. My children now treat me like crap. They will think nothing of screaming at me, like he does. The think nothing of telling me no. He has now swore he is going
to change. He has swore that he see's all the mental abuse he has put me through and that he loves me with all of his heart and really wants to change. All he talks about is how or when I am going to feel the same about him. Right now I am sick of talking about any of it! I don't even know if I want to change anything. I am scared to death to leave, because I do believe he loves me. He is a wonderful father and my whole family loves him. He does
little things like notices even when I wear a different shade of eye shadow. However, he has lowered my self esteem. I am so afraid to make a go of it on my own and find out I have made a mistake. We have done marriage counceling 3X and he has never changed. I don't want to do it again. Please give me some advise, since my family think I am nuts to leave such a wonderful man.