42 Years - Husband unfaithful

[Firefolk]

I have been married 42 years and have been faithful. I found out three weeks ago that my husband has been unfaithful and was having an affair with a 30 year old young women. I confronted him and he told me he would stop the affair and that he loved me. also that he would not see her again. He has been with her and is with her tonight only now he is blatently seeing her. I am a Christian woman, I do not know what to do. He says the affair is only for sex. and that he likes the "kinky" sex she seems to provide him. I am so depressed, and hurt. I do not know what to do. He even has the audacity to wanting me to go to a party to meet with her. Help me. I am so confused and hurt I do not know what to do. I am planning to retire the end of this month, now I don't know. what to do. If he leaves I will need a job to survive. I gave him everything I have, and now I do not know what to do.

[Chevycavgyrl]

Dear Firefolk,
I am so sorry to hear about what your husband has done to you. After 42 years of marrige you would think that he would have had the brains not to do that to you. He needs some kind of help.... some that you nor this sex-fiendish woman can provide. If he truly loves you then he will stop seeing her. If not, then it seems that you are sensible enough then you can move on and you may end up alot happier. Best of luck to you and if you need a shoulder to cry on please feel free to email me and we can talk. :)

[Kate]

Dear Firefolk

What a horrible shock for you! After all these years no-one would expect something like that to happen to them.

Have you been able to talk to Christian friends or your pastor to ask for help and prayer support? You don't say whether your husband is a Christian too. Is there someone who can talk to him? I know this will be hard to have to allow others to know what has happened, but you do need some support as you struggle to make sense of it all and know how to stand for your marriage. You need somewhere where you can express your hurt and your grief and know yourself loved and safe.

As a Christian, you can also ask God yourself for promises to hold onto. For example: "Stand still and see the victory of the Lord on your behalf" from 2 Chron 20 v17 comes to mind.

Keep in touch

Kate