Marriage and Sex

[JJweander]

TH0ndP Great, thanks for sharing this blog article.Really looking forward to read more. Want more.

[chosen]

JJwaender
Oh dear that was a bit embarrasing wasnt it with it being your mum and step dad. lol
Did they actually say that sex toys were wrong? Personally I am a believer like you, and in moderation I cant see why they are wrong, as long as they dont take over.

The Bible doesnt seem to say too much about what is and isnt allowed in marriage and sex, but the songs of songs is pretty explicit and also erotic. I personally feel that as long as both are respected, loved, and that there is no forcing or controlling by one spouse, many things can be enjoyed. As long as no on else is invoved(whether in person or through porn) and no physical or emotional damage is done to either, then dont feel you need to be too restricted.

I can recommend some good books that I have read in the past that may help you
Firstly 'Intimate issues- 21 questions that Christian women ask about sex' by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus.I have read it, and it is excellent.

One for you and your fiance to read together at the right time (maybe when you are actually married)is also written by these 2 ladies and their husbands is called 'Intimacy ignited' by Dr Joseph and linda Dillow and Dr Peter and Lorraine Pintus. It basically uses the song of songs to help couples 'fire up' their sex lives.

The last one is called 'Intended for pleasure' by Ed wheat and Gaye wheat. I read this years agio and seem to remember it was good.
For the time being I would get the first one for women, it is excellent.

Congratulations on your engagement, have you set a day yet? My son gets married in 4 weeks and I suspect my daugher will be getting engaged before long as well. very exciting!

[Raymond]

That sex toys are wrong is their opinion and ought to be treated as such. Everyone is different and there are many christians with the opposite view. I think Chosen has pretty well said it all in as much as the bible does not say what one can do or not do in the bedroom. It is more concerned about adultery, fornication, sex outside marriage etc. not what a couple do in the bedroom, so you have an open sheet really.