Is this the end of the road

[Chevycavgyrl]

I feel like I have hit the end of the road with my marrige. I have been married for three years and have two wonderful children (a rich mans family as most people say). We have been together since my freshman year of HS.... I thought he was the one.... but what I didn't realize is that he would be the first for everything, including breaking my heart repeatdly.
Our marrige has been rocky from the begining. It got to the point I went to one of his friends for comfort. He told me that I was to good for him and that I should leave him, so I decided to. But then some how he used our children and my feelings for him and wormed his way back in.... I think that I am scared to be alone. But there is one thing I know... I can not stand doing things around him while he watches me do things. I understand he works... I give him that but he could help with house work, with the children and stay off "gaming" on the computer. He is suppose to be a family man, but he is acting more like a child...

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Thanks
Chevycavgyrl

[Kate]

Dear Chevycavgyrl

You obviously think that your husband is taking you for granted, but what have you done to try and talk to him about your expectations of his contribution to your life together. Do you ask him for help? Have you told him that you think he is taking you for granted? It's easy to expect our spouse to be able to read our mind.

If there are other problems then try to get some help with them. There are a number of things you could do. There is counselling (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/counselling/). There are enrichment programmes (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/) if the root cause is something to do with communication or disappointment and disillusionment. There are articles,videos, books and tapes you can look at on the site, why not start here (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/relbasictopic/). Why not explore the site to see if you can find some hints about what you can do to spice your marriage up and get your husband involved in the process?

[Chevycavgyrl]

Dear Kate,
Thanks for the reply. I have tried everything to fix my marrige. I don't want it to end that is why I have stayed with him for so long. I do love him but its hard. I just feel like I am at the end of my ropes.

[Unregistered]

Do not give up. Every marriage goes through tough times, or in my case very tough times. Counselling can help with communication than you could move on to a marriage encounter. Try everything first, prayer can have the greatest impact of all. As long as we have breath we have hope.