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trinityamo

15th July 2002, 02:49 AM

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half, and the past 6 months have been hell. He started lying to me about going to strip clubs, and downloading porn off the internet. I have reciently moved back with my parents, and have found that he also has girlfriends on the internet. I want to trust him and communicate with him, but he is unwilling to change. Anyone with a suggestion, write me back here, or email me at trinityamo@yahoo.com. Thankyou.

Liz

16th July 2002, 05:53 PM

Dear Trinityamo,

You have real problems if your husband isn't willing to seek help with what amounts to either an addiction or an unwillingess to giev something up for the sake of your marriage.

Have you checked out the area of the site about these problems (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/cyberaffair/). There are resources there that might offer you some ideas.

all the best

Liz

XRAY

16th July 2002, 11:29 PM

Have you tried talking to him.Just ask him what the problem is ,or that is it commitment he is affraid of confront these issues ,you have alot to talk about and need to be resolved if to go forward in life.Life is to short to worry mistakes have been made on both sides of the fence dont waste time talk is the only option ....

Helen

15th September 2002, 07:50 PM

I fullly understand how you feel. I have been married for 12 months my husband is in the RAF and only moved in with me a couple of months before we married. I was shocked to find that he is heavily into porn on the internet and had no idea before I married him. He refuses to stop and says I am being prudish.

I realise I have married someone I really didnt know and you must be feeling hurt and inadequate. Its not you. I have considered asking him to leave if it continues. He goes on the net as soon as I go out and stays up late. It has driven me insane.

It is however, an addiction and whilst its no compensation an awful lot of men do this. Keep your self esteem and dont let him win. You will see in the marriage forum my quest for support under knowing your husband (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?threadid=822). Remember its not you. Hes the one with the problem.

helen