no sex-opposite

[Unregistered]

Isn't it ironic (Yvonnea - no sex (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=699)). There's always somone for whom the opposite is true. I've been married a long time and never really enjoyed sex. I got to the point where I could stand the pretence no longer but couldn't seek help. My husband has now found someone else who meets his needs, but I wonder if anything can be done for me, even at this late stage - how successful is sex therapy- can anyone say if it has been successful for them?

[Kate]

Hi there,

I just put a link in to the post you were referring to so others could see the connection.

I haven't any experience of sex therapy, but I'm sure it does help some people. I think you'll find that it's very common for married folk to have different interests in and capacities for sex. Women tend to need to feel safe and emotionally close to enjoy making love, they don't usually get turned on as quickly as men. I once heard it likened to the difference between cooking with electricity and gas. As soon as the gas is turned on it's hot and ready to cook, but the electric stove takes time to heat up. It may be your husband hadn't recognised your needs in this area. I think it's also very important to be able to talk to each other about making love and what helps you to relax and enjoy it.

best wishes

Kate