is my marriage dying???

[Greg72]

hi

i have an awful feeling my marriage is dying. we have been married for 8 years and had our up and downs. for some time i feel like the affection has faded. i work hard sometimes too hard but i do try to show affection. my wife is a bit shy and lacks confidance but seem to be more distant over the last year or so. it has now gotton to a state where i have nothing to look forward to. i try to keep my hopes from getting up when i get home, as my wife does not seem overly happy to see me home. i do love my wife lots and want us to be happy together

any help would be great

[Raymond]

Just the fact that she is not overly happy to see you home by itself is not a major thing. Maybe she had a hard day or maybe she is very busy and falling into a routine and the love needs stirring up.

However, you are basically saying that she has cooled a little towards you.

Marriages do go through periods sometimes and perhaps she needs a bit of special attention. Do you take her out for a meal occasionally or have quality time together? Do you know what her love language is? It might take a bit of work, which is needed in all marriages occasionally, but it can be done and the love can be restored.

You have to put your thinking cap on maybe? There will be a reason for this and you must find it.

[koliver0821]

um, have you tried communicating your feelings to her? I mean honestly talking about your feelings? Take steps to improve the situation. You dont really paint any picture in your statement above. Do you have kids? Do you help her out? Does she get to go out? does she work?

Lots of gray area. If you feel she is acting distant or keeping her distance, perhaps ask her about it. I know I did with my wife. It didnt exactly go the way I expected but the end result did.

Good luck sir.