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[Unregistered]

I don't know what to do, About this time last year, my husband cheated on me with another woman, well he did the same thing again last week. I don't know what to do, Do I make him leave or let him stay and me just deal with this for the rest of my life. I'm young and he is also but we have two children and I don't want them to be without their daddy. I need some advice someone please help me.

[Dreamer]

I would ask him to give you some space, so you can figure out your feeling before doing something you will regret. I think if you let him stay, he will think that this behavior is excepted. When you request your space, try to keep the conversation on how you are feeling, not "you did this", try not to point the finger or discuss with him why he did it. He did it, no going back. This is going to be painful no dought about it, but you must stay calm, and not react on emotion. Take the time you need to figure out what is best for you, and if I doesnt like it-oh well-he brought this situation upon himself.

As for your children, they will always have there father. It may or may not be the ideal situation, but many other families live happy lives with their parents living in different homes. Of course, its not what you wished for, but life is not alway going to give you what you want.

First, I would suggest, that you focus on yourself and figure out where andhow you want to go from here. You will be no good to your children if you are not good to yourself. Stay busy, and create a support network-other mothers.

Well I hope I have helped and good luck.

[Liz]

You might like to have a look at the area of the site on Affairs (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/). I wonder if you really managed to deal with what happened last time, or whether it was just pushed under the carpet because it was too painful or your husband was unwilling to face up to what he had done. There are a number of good articles that might give you some ideas.