dopeep
7th June 2010, 03:57 PM
My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have 3 children. We married at a young age, I was 20 and my wife was 17. Like most marriages we have been through tough and trying times but we have always worked through it and become stronger as a result. We both believe we are solid as a rock and nothing can break us. Last year my wife met a woman who became a good friend to her, she was unmarried but had a partner (mr x). Together we became fairly good friends and socialised together occasionally. Unfortunately this couple broke up and my wife’s friend moved in with a new man. My wife and I have stayed in contact with both but have been split between them and it has been difficult for us. Mr x has been welcomed in our home on a number of occasions and we have been there for him during a difficult time, I was there to comfort him when he was upset and refused to visit my wife’s friends new partner out of respect to him.
I went along to a barbq of mr x without my wife a couple of weeks ago and had a great time. The following week we were invited back to another social gathering but we couldn’t get a babysitter so my wife went alone. Mr x walked my wife home at the end of the night, he kissed her on the cheek and then on the lips, then he grabbed her and snogged her, my wife backed off and told him she had to go but then he snogged her again. My wife did reciprocate the kiss, and I think she may have reciprocated more than she has told me. After the second kiss my wife turned to leave and mr x said “look what you have done to me” mr x was aroused. As soon as my wife came through the door she told me. Naturally I hit the roof, I felt betrayed by mr x who I considered a friend and had respect for. My wife was very drunk and fell asleep very quickly without giving many details about the event. I sent mr x a txt saying “good night, what’s going on?” The following morning my wife heard a txt message being received on my phone while I was still sleeping, mr x replied “good morning, yes good night, got your txt didn’t understand”. To my anger my wife replied as me saying “alright mr x, sent txt to you instead of (wife) cos you are next to her on my phone. (wife) was very drunk and suffering, sorry I didn’t make it, have a good weekend”. I have wanted to see Mr x to speak to him and ask him why, so he knows that I know and what he has done is unacceptable and morally wrong. My wifes approach is to ignore him, not speak to him and cut all ties.
I feel this makes me look like a coward or mr x may think that I don’t know about it so he can try again. I have been through a range of emotions and keep picturing the scene in my head. I feel sick thinking about it and not sure what to do next (for the best).
Any advice/tips appreciated
Thank you
I went along to a barbq of mr x without my wife a couple of weeks ago and had a great time. The following week we were invited back to another social gathering but we couldn’t get a babysitter so my wife went alone. Mr x walked my wife home at the end of the night, he kissed her on the cheek and then on the lips, then he grabbed her and snogged her, my wife backed off and told him she had to go but then he snogged her again. My wife did reciprocate the kiss, and I think she may have reciprocated more than she has told me. After the second kiss my wife turned to leave and mr x said “look what you have done to me” mr x was aroused. As soon as my wife came through the door she told me. Naturally I hit the roof, I felt betrayed by mr x who I considered a friend and had respect for. My wife was very drunk and fell asleep very quickly without giving many details about the event. I sent mr x a txt saying “good night, what’s going on?” The following morning my wife heard a txt message being received on my phone while I was still sleeping, mr x replied “good morning, yes good night, got your txt didn’t understand”. To my anger my wife replied as me saying “alright mr x, sent txt to you instead of (wife) cos you are next to her on my phone. (wife) was very drunk and suffering, sorry I didn’t make it, have a good weekend”. I have wanted to see Mr x to speak to him and ask him why, so he knows that I know and what he has done is unacceptable and morally wrong. My wifes approach is to ignore him, not speak to him and cut all ties.
I feel this makes me look like a coward or mr x may think that I don’t know about it so he can try again. I have been through a range of emotions and keep picturing the scene in my head. I feel sick thinking about it and not sure what to do next (for the best).
Any advice/tips appreciated
Thank you