I need help

[Froggy]

Hey everyone. My names "George", I'm in the u.s. military stationed somewhere in a distant land. I'm in a very beautiful relationship, I love her with my whole heart. She lives back in America though. In about 5 months I'm going to marry her and I need some small tips and info because I'm thoroughly confused on some traditions and customs.

First of all, do women usually wear an engagement ring even after they're married? if not im not buying one, because we'll be engaged for like a month when I go home on leave. I'd probably get her something that she could wear for years like a necklace or ear rings.

Okay and another tradition, when engaged you put the ring on the ring finger of the right hand correct? what about the wedding ring, and it goes in a certain order right, wedding then engagement? OMG so confusing!!! ha ha

I'm a kinda guy to just roll with the punches but when it comes to this I don't want to mess it up with her. I love her so much, she's the most important thing in my life so some help would be awesome!!! thanks ha ha

[Raymond]

The main thing is that you love her Froggy. I believe the engagement ring goes on the same finger as what the wedding ring will i.e. left hand left of the middle looking at the back of your hand. Engagement rings are not normally worn regularly after marriage although some like to wear them sometimes on special occasions. I'm sure that if you discuss this with her you can probably both decide that it might be a waste to buy one. Give her a nice necklace or earrings instead. Theres room for being different. If you have asked her to marry you already and she has said yes then you are already engaged to be married.

My wife's up in a minute and she can confirm these things.

I hope the wedding and honeymoon go really well.

Raymond

[Raymond]

My wife confirms what I said George. She mentioned that you could get a cheapy engagement ring just for traditions sake.

By the way what I've said is how it happens in England as we are English. There might be slight differences in the States?

One of the secrets to a long and happy marriage is honouring the vows. If you are both faithful to each other you can overcome everything no matter what your faults are and you will both have them, as well as your good points of course.

Raymond

[Froggy]

Thanks for the help bro. We already talked about it and agreed but not formally. I'd like it to be more professional. Ya I'm probly gunna stick to a really nice necklace of some sort.

[Raymond]

Congratulations on your engagement then and I hope she likes the necklace and the formal celebration.

Raymond

[j92cool]

Hi Froggy

I am not sure if traditions are different in certain countries but in Australia women wear the engagement ring with our wedding ring everyday not just on special occasions. It would be such a waste to have a beautiful ring and not wear it. We wear our engagement ring & wedding ring on our left hand on the finger closest to the little finger.

You both sound truely blessed to find each other. Wishing you all the best.

Janine

[huskypup]

Hi

My husband is also military and is also in a far off distant land xx I wear my engagement ring and my wedding ring all the time - I also have an eternity ring , mine all fit snuggly into each other. My husband bought my matching earing and necklace as a wedding present - he gave them to me as a surprise the night before we married so I could wear them on the day, on our honeymoon he gave me the matching bracelet, then..... on the way back home he told me he had bought me DOG!!! - yes a huskypup - who says romance is dead.

[HarryMartin]

First Congratulations on your engagement, these are minor issues( not issue infact if you don't make them issue).Main focus must be how much you trust your partner i think trust is the key factor for success of any relation.