How do you go from "can't stand being around children" to wanting one of your own?

[Song]

My husband is thinking about leaving me I don't give him children.
I strongly dislike being around them. I think it would be cruel to bring a child into a situation like that. So how do I start liking them?

[Jenny]

I was very anxious about having children. I hadn't had much contact with children in my family or anywhere. I wondered how I would love a child and my husband.

When I was pregnant I was amazed by this little bit of life growing inside me and began to get excited but still anxious. When the child was born I was a very nervous mum, but somethings just came naturally and I learnt how to handle the baby. I haven't found every stage easy, but they are stages and eventually the children grow up to be adults. I think many people fidn certain parts of having children difficult.

Don't know if that is helpful.

[Unregistered/ Nicole]

Hello, I am no expert but I do believe that this is a very serious situation. I was just wondering if you and your husband discussed having children before getting married? Whatever you do, don't have children if you truly don't want to. Children are indeed a blessing but the parental responsibilites are endless. Don't feel bad or pressured by others. Children aren't for everyone!

[Song]

We did talk about it before we married, even before we became engaged. He changed his mind.
Thanks for your support.
I'm trying to show him that we have mentoring opportunities staring at us. We are teen magnets. We'll see..