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24th May 2002, 02:28 PM
I am 34, married for 12 years and have 2 small sons.
My husband keeps walking out and devastating me and our children. He has left me about 6 or 7 times. Last time he didn't speak to me for three months, and went to live in his mother's attic.
He does have emotional problems, but flatly refuses to see a relationship counsellor. I went on my own but didn't really resolve anything.
He can be cruel when he leaves, he tells me he doesn't care, he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with me, we don't get on, we're too different, I'm better off without him.
Our children are devasted each time he goes. They put on smiles and are as good as gold when he visits them - my eldest told me that he thought that if he was good and made Daddy happy then Daddy will come home again.
His mother is being very hostile towards me, my parents and friends. She returned my mother's christmas card and wouldn't take the small christmas presents I sent from me and the children.
She blames me for her son's depression. I retrained as a teacher 3 years ago, and she feels I should have spent more time being full-time wife and mother rather than making a career for myself. She told my mother that I drink gin and smoke menthol cigarettesoutside while the children are in the house (true but only since her son left me) and that the reason that I have not made her son happy is because I choose friends who are a)unmarried mothers, b)married but choose not to have children and c)divorcees who set up home with married men.
Twelve weeks ago, my husband returned after 3 months without my invitation. He turned up in the middle of the night, slept on the sofa and now sleeps in my 4 year olds bed (who has slept with me since his father left) and ignores me during the day.
He has drifted in and out of work for years and is currently lorrydriving from 4 am til 7 pm. We hardly see each other, the children think their daddy is back at home for them and I am trying to live my life as fully as I can. But my friends can't belive I llet him stay and I beginning to see that they are losing respect for me. They think I am weak and stupid. But they don't see the pain in my children's eyes when they wake and realise their daddy doesn't live with them any more. If they did, they'd understand why I do ....
Comments please??
My husband keeps walking out and devastating me and our children. He has left me about 6 or 7 times. Last time he didn't speak to me for three months, and went to live in his mother's attic.
He does have emotional problems, but flatly refuses to see a relationship counsellor. I went on my own but didn't really resolve anything.
He can be cruel when he leaves, he tells me he doesn't care, he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with me, we don't get on, we're too different, I'm better off without him.
Our children are devasted each time he goes. They put on smiles and are as good as gold when he visits them - my eldest told me that he thought that if he was good and made Daddy happy then Daddy will come home again.
His mother is being very hostile towards me, my parents and friends. She returned my mother's christmas card and wouldn't take the small christmas presents I sent from me and the children.
She blames me for her son's depression. I retrained as a teacher 3 years ago, and she feels I should have spent more time being full-time wife and mother rather than making a career for myself. She told my mother that I drink gin and smoke menthol cigarettesoutside while the children are in the house (true but only since her son left me) and that the reason that I have not made her son happy is because I choose friends who are a)unmarried mothers, b)married but choose not to have children and c)divorcees who set up home with married men.
Twelve weeks ago, my husband returned after 3 months without my invitation. He turned up in the middle of the night, slept on the sofa and now sleeps in my 4 year olds bed (who has slept with me since his father left) and ignores me during the day.
He has drifted in and out of work for years and is currently lorrydriving from 4 am til 7 pm. We hardly see each other, the children think their daddy is back at home for them and I am trying to live my life as fully as I can. But my friends can't belive I llet him stay and I beginning to see that they are losing respect for me. They think I am weak and stupid. But they don't see the pain in my children's eyes when they wake and realise their daddy doesn't live with them any more. If they did, they'd understand why I do ....
Comments please??