Hello all

[JWD]

Haven't been on in a while due to a mixture of work, lappys that won't behave and ther occasional social life :D

Nice to see some familiar names - doesn't sound right but you'll know what I mean.

Missed you all and I will go try catch up on some threads.

x

[yogamad]

Hey JWD it's good to hear from you. How are you? Hope things still going well!

xx

[RayCub]

JWD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey girlie...where have you been?!?!? How ARE you?? What's going on in your life?? You need to fill us in on all the recent goings-on with you!!

Hope everything is amazing and that you're really, really happy :)

Update soon!!
RC
XO

[Ageing Grace]

OMG! JWD!! :D

Thanks for checking in - can't wait to hear your news :)

xxx

[JWD]

Hello you lovely lot!

Well, I can't find my old threads - I'm pretty sure I was rather drunky at last posting so not sure I want to read it teehee.

I'm doing great. Had the best Christmas and Hogmany ever. All my wonderful friends and cousins spoiled me rotten and made sure I didn't have any time to dwell at all.

I didn't really think much about being on my own or compare to last year which is good. Of course I still have strange, down days when it hits me again and I just cannot believe it happened, and I do still miss my old life and my 'old' husband but it wasn't to be. He still occasionally annoys me with stupid texts but I tend not to wonder about the reasons behind them anymore and I don't analyse their meanings a thousand different ways :D

I'm still addicted to self-help books and I'm now into NLP ( Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), lots of fun and I basically know what to do but I have my first session tomorrow for EFT and I'm really looking forward to it. I've also met this amazing GP who is into it too so that helps my inferiority complex and if someone as smart as that accepts it, then than makes me 'normal' too :D

Been on a few dates with different people but I'm finding it quite stressful. The actual dates are fine but I have this horrible, irrational fear of hurting people's feelings and almost all of the dates seem to become quite intense far too soon. I'm talking after one date???

Work is great. The patients keep me going and they are determined to find me a man lol, gets rather embarrassing when they shout out "have you got a man yet" across the ward and almost always in ear shot of the very young doctors lol Its kind of nice to be told they can't understand whats 'wrong' with me. A compliment I suppose :rolleyes:

I can hardly believe its coming up for a whole year since it happened. I'm really proud of myself for coping as I have. The only real issue I'm finding hard is actually clapping eyes on him or his family again. The thought of that brings me out in a cold sweat so of course I've rehearsed my reactions should it happen lol. I just hope my friends don't spot him first lol.

Great to be back and catch up with you all. Don't know what I would have done without you all. You have all been so supportive and wonderful.

xxx

[JWD]

EFT session was great! The woman was hilarious. She loved my affirmations and we had loads in common. She even gave me a lift home and came in for a coffee lol. Made a new friend :-)

She gave me lots of books on EFt stuff and changed my affirmations around and came up with "even though S is an arsehole, I choose to love and accept myself and forgive him" LOL. Its very effective already.

I'm off out tonight to see a band with friends and consume copious amounts of cocktails.

[luce]

JWD, glad to hear it went well. You sound completely fab. Warm wishes Luce

[Wedgewood]

I am sure you will meet someone JWD. Just keep looking after yourself - self help is a great idea. Maybe I will look into that when I have some spare time.

Mark x

[RayCub]

Aww, J, I missed you!!!!

You sound like you're doing soooo well!! I knew it all along!!

Email me; I want all the deets of your life lately!!

Love ya!!
Ray
xo

[j92cool]

Hi JWD

So pleased to hear you are doing well. Good to hear from you. I miss hearing from others that were frantically posting around the same time as me :). This forum has been such a life line to me I still visit to catch up on how everyone is doing.

Cheers

Janine

:D

[JWD]

Thanks Guys :D

great to hear from you Janine. sounds like you're doing pretty fab yourself;)

Ray, I'll mail you. I miss all our swearing LOL,

[jellybean28]

Hey JWD just found your new thread, glad you enjoyed your EFT session.
I had a time-line therapy session with a life coach just before Christmas and was amazed at the difference it made. Hoping to have NLP later.

I just love your new affirmation
even though S is an arsehole, I choose to love and accept myself and forgive him" LOL. Its very effective already

Hope you don't mind my using it. Will change the S to an N

take care everyone.

[JWD]

hahah, not at all jellybean. I have loads and loads on affirmations and NLP but the NLP stuff i'm trying to save it all on this computer. Once I work that out I'll send you it if you like.

I've never heard of time-line therapy - sounds good.

I'd love a life coach, i'll need to look into that.

[georgie]

JWD - I've missed u toooooooo... dont get on here so much lately, have discovered another site called Daily Strenght and now have people chatting with me from every corner of the globe on every form of self help and support imaginable, they're even diagnosing me with new 'issues' so if I keep helping myself at this rate I should have every form of psychological imparement known to man by Easter - it's not 2:40am and I should be asleep!!
You sound Gr8, long may it continue. I'm not dating yet, have had offers but am sticking to the online arms length world until i'm really sure of exactly who I am since my relationship stunted me at the age of 26 and i now find myself 43 with all those years to catch up with in terms of being me.
I'll drop u an email.
Your an inspiration to everyone here, so it's great that u posted xxx

[JWD]

they're even diagnosing me with new 'issues' so if I keep helping myself at this rate I should have every form of psychological imparement known to man by Easter

LOL LOL LOL, tears are running down my face you're so funny, missed ya millions.

I'm joining the site! I need another psycholgical diagnosis LOL

Can't wait to catch up via email. xxxxx mwah

[JWD]

I can hardly believe its now been over a year.

I'm not divorced yet, don't think itm will be too much hassle but I'm waiting until I come back from New York. The problem is how my level of irritation rises whenever we need to talk. I think I will just wait for the two years and then I don't need to speak to him at all. And I can't stand that thought of dealing with another lawyer.

Well, Off to New York in April WOOOOO HOOOO. New York was one of the places I never thought I'd ever be able to think about again becuase we got engaged there but I will just go and make new memories. Plus going with my two best friends and they have much better shopping taste than ex HA.

I'm far more sociable since ex accidentally kissed his staff person because he had a personal problem which only she coulod understand and that neither of them knew what said problem was.

I'm off to T in the Park again this year which is going to be fabby, got tickets for Green day (I can hardly wait) off to Belfast to see pink and hopefully having a holiday later in the year

I think every cloud has a silver lining and I'm quite excited about the future. It is very strange but I no longer worry about silly things like I used to. And I'm more confident than ever. I'm quite happy with how I've turned out and I'm very proud of how I've handled this divorce.

Every single lie that was ever said about me doesn;t even touch me now, I honestly couldn;t care less. The most recent was that We split because I didn't want children, rubbish, I would have loved children I think but weirdly, I never thought I was mature enough before and he certainly wasn't. I realise his mum is most likely just embarrassed. So be it.

[Wedgewood]

I for one am soooo happy for you, and a better person for knowing you.

You inspire me everyday with you sense of humour, crazyness and general attitute towards life. Drunk texting me also helps our 'bonding', especially when I make up the subjects and you are none the wiser.

New york is not ready for you hun. They will have to ship in some extra security, show them some mercy!

Wish I could go to T in the park with you, we would have a blast! I dont look as good as you in wellies though, well in anything x

I believe you will meet someone, if you haven't already. You are to nice/funny/clever/beautiful not to. Dont waste yourself, the male species will be worse off without you x

You got my number if you need to text me when having a 'moment', day or night does not matter (you know this after the weekend lol). Glad to see you are making such good progress. I am really proud of you hun xxxx

Love

Mark xxxxxx