Ageing Grace
4th December 2009, 04:28 PM
Hi, Sean :)
Looks like you deleted your thread :confused:
Here's the reply I posted, anyway ...
Glad you got yourself on antidepressants. Long-term depression actually wrecks your whole system - physical and mental - because your neurotransmitters stop working properly. If nothing else, SSRIs (like Prozac) help with that so your health won't be so badly impacted. This is obviously important for your overall recovery, whatever happens.
Often, when we pine for our marriage, we're really mourning the marriage we *wished* we had; the partner we *thought* they were ... in other words, our broken hopes, rather than the reality we had. I wonder if this chimes any with you?
I think you should do something about Christmas, if only to show your kids and neighbours (and yourself?) you're not completely out of the loop. My first Christmas after divorce, I couldn't face using my designer decorations, which I'd collected during my marriage, so I gave them all away & bought some cheap lights & stuff in a very different style from 'my' usual Christmas.
I still remember how chuffed I was when I switched them all on, even though I was there by myself!!
Did you follow through with the counselling? I think it might help you.
Remember to do something nice for your self every day :D
Best wishes, AG
Looks like you deleted your thread :confused:
Here's the reply I posted, anyway ...
Glad you got yourself on antidepressants. Long-term depression actually wrecks your whole system - physical and mental - because your neurotransmitters stop working properly. If nothing else, SSRIs (like Prozac) help with that so your health won't be so badly impacted. This is obviously important for your overall recovery, whatever happens.
Often, when we pine for our marriage, we're really mourning the marriage we *wished* we had; the partner we *thought* they were ... in other words, our broken hopes, rather than the reality we had. I wonder if this chimes any with you?
I think you should do something about Christmas, if only to show your kids and neighbours (and yourself?) you're not completely out of the loop. My first Christmas after divorce, I couldn't face using my designer decorations, which I'd collected during my marriage, so I gave them all away & bought some cheap lights & stuff in a very different style from 'my' usual Christmas.
I still remember how chuffed I was when I switched them all on, even though I was there by myself!!
Did you follow through with the counselling? I think it might help you.
Remember to do something nice for your self every day :D
Best wishes, AG