How to get over this?

[tishtash]

Just thought I'd update where I am at the minute, if anyone wants to know :o, I've been staying with my sister for the last few weeks. Its given a great time to think and decide what I need to do. My husband has been a wreck!(feels good to know though)

I have been back at our house for a few days, he's been asking for a chance to prove himself, so I thought why not! he has changed a lot and is truly sorry for everything. He's in the spare room at the minute. I am finding it quite hard to be civil with him at times and cannot stand physical contact, I don't know how to be any different, I guess things may get better.
He's asked me if I do really want to be with him, I think he thinks I should be my "normal" self. But I just feel that it may seem ok to him; to continue as normal but I just can't. He's hurt me bad.

Can anyone help? What experience have you all had with this? Thanks :)

[huting]

Its going to take some time before things can return to some normality,taking it slow will help,however at some point you are going to have to let it go if you want to move forward,both yourself and your marriage, what he did will always be there,you can't change that now but it doesn't have to impact youe future, this is a chance for you and youe husband to have a new start, not taking each other for granted, learning from past mistakes, if you llok at it in this way it doesn't seem so bad