What now?????????

[katharine2712]

Iv had councelling or rather still having it x Iv lost weight and started going out x All i seem to have done is get busier and busier to push the pain away and fill my life up with so much i cant think anymorex iv great friends a lovely family and have even been on a few dates xmen just seem to want sex or a heavy relationship i no its too soon as h only been gone 3 and half months im still counting the days x feel confused i still love him and would have him back but no it not gonna happen now x another women surprise surprise all along x the councellor says all the things about my past are part of how i feel and i have leaving issues about being adopted as a baby ,3 broken marriages, one broken long term relationship . i feel such a failure and as soon as anyone dates, try and get close i want to run. im so confused i my head about everything at the moment x how do i get through all this iv tried all the advice and good ideas iv read but im left feeling i dnt no who i am any more x please can someone help cos i cant do this anymore i want to get off this rollercoaster of life and find peace again not this horrible pain and confusion x

[Ageing Grace]

Stop trying to do it all at once :)

It's like being ill, Katharine. You have to take it easy, accept that you're going to feel crap for a while, and know that you will get better - you just gotta give it time. Same as being ill, if you jump back up too soon you stay sick for longer :rolleyes:

I'm pleased to hear you didn't give up the counsellor. It looks like she may have a point about your broken relationships & abandonment issues. Don't worry, nearly evryone has abandonment issues, it doesn't make you a freak!

Perhaps, if you give your counselling a little more head space, you might find you feel a bit less frantic. You could always write in here, if you like,about what you discuss in your sessions. There are some pretty good therapists in these forums!

Chill out. You're doing okay, there's no time limit ... Looking back at your first thread, you've already come a long way haven't you?

Hugs :)
AG

[jellybean28]

Oh Katharine,

From someone who has been where you have been I can understand your pain and fustration.

I don't see you as a failure. What I see is a good woman with a lot of life experience, who just at this moment is confused and maybe a little scared of her future right now.

I'm not sure how I can help you, was at the point you are now only a few months ago, now I have managed turn things around and am in a great place with my life now.

Katharine, talk to your Doctor, councellor and anyone else you can seek support from, you are not a failure by doing this. You are taking charge of your life.

Your are in my thoughts, and know that I'm sending you love, support and hugs, via cyber space, coz I can't do it in person.

Hang in there Katharine, things do get better.
xxxxxxxxxxx Gillian