rushy5150
1st November 2009, 07:46 PM
My wife and I (been together 17 years and married 14) have been having a few sex problems in recent years whereby when we are happily making love everything is fine, but we have these long periods where we don't and things get a little tense and sex becomes a big issue.
My wife has always wanted to talk about this but I have been sticking my head in the sand and thinking 'everything will work itself out'. Unfortunately we have been drifting apart and recently wend to visit our son who lives in Australia. Unfortunately being together for a whole month highlighted how separate we have become.
Upon coming home I suggested we go to relate for counselling and that's when she told me she has been seeing someone else (who she met ironically while trying to find help for us).
She's now left and I'm devastated as I love her very much and want her back but I don't know what to do. I am in pieces but she is very emotionally detached as she came to the conclusion that we were beyond help a while ago.
My inaction to tackle, or even talk about our sexual problem has left her feeling that It's not important to me so I can't really blame her for this but I'm absolutely gutted and cannot imagine carrying on without her - what can i do? I tell her I want her back but it's to no avail.
My wife has always wanted to talk about this but I have been sticking my head in the sand and thinking 'everything will work itself out'. Unfortunately we have been drifting apart and recently wend to visit our son who lives in Australia. Unfortunately being together for a whole month highlighted how separate we have become.
Upon coming home I suggested we go to relate for counselling and that's when she told me she has been seeing someone else (who she met ironically while trying to find help for us).
She's now left and I'm devastated as I love her very much and want her back but I don't know what to do. I am in pieces but she is very emotionally detached as she came to the conclusion that we were beyond help a while ago.
My inaction to tackle, or even talk about our sexual problem has left her feeling that It's not important to me so I can't really blame her for this but I'm absolutely gutted and cannot imagine carrying on without her - what can i do? I tell her I want her back but it's to no avail.