Seperated for 5 months, but want to reunite

[Wedgewood]

mark ive got duplicates of your plane tickets mate so we can both go

its going to be a massage orgy :D lol :eek: :cool:


I am not quite sure what to say :o

[Helen_uk]

Good grief.. are you lot still at it ? lol

[Wedgewood]

It looks that way - I must be a bad influence, or is it Lee - I forget :(

[Helen_uk]

A pair of very naughty boys ( but fun to read :p )

[spiderman]

i can be very naughty Helen...have you checked out my FB yet ? lol

[Helen_uk]

Noooo Lee... I can resist everything but temptation ( I've heard some good reports though hehehe )

[Wedgewood]

I suspended my FB when I split (had too much time to stress over status') - but I made a new one just for you lot :)

[Helen_uk]

I'm on FB... but only to play games ... got tracked down by an ex b/f I dated when I was 15 and boy was he still angry at me lol.... I could barely remember him, but he can sure hold a grudge !

[JWD]

I'm on FB... but only to play games ... got tracked down by an ex b/f I dated when I was 15 and boy was he still angry at me lol.... I could barely remember him, but he can sure hold a grudge !


omg, thats like I girl I once met, we were in p3 or something was last spoke and she was giving me a hard time about throwing an apple at her LOL

[Helen_uk]

At least we made an impression J hehehe

[Wedgewood]

Going for a quick shower - will play later. Anyone want to wash my back?

[spiderman]

No offence Mark but i'll pass

Now do any of you lovely ladies need your backs washing ?

[Helen_uk]

Depends how dirty you are Mark ;)

[spiderman]

Helen you are a very naughty girl....your new man is a very lucky guy...lol

[Helen_uk]

Mmm he is.. and I make sure he knows that .. often lol

[spiderman]

now im really jealous...lol

[Wedgewood]

Me shower just tripped the electric - bath it is. I HATE BATHS :( :(

[spiderman]

yeah mate we can smell that...lol

[Helen_uk]

Haha Lee.. ... verrry witty ! Mark.. just make sure you don't wrinkle up...:)

[JWD]

bafys are good. take your wee duck in. My god, I wouldn't say I was a stupid person but FB is confussled me! don't know where the hell i'm posting

[Wedgewood]

yeah mate we can smell that...lol

I walked into that one mate :p

[JWD]

Haha Lee.. ... verrry witty ! Mark.. just make sure you don't wrinkle up...:)


LOL hahahhaha

[spiderman]

wide open Mark

[JWD]

Can people see that you've visited their profile on facebook? I think I've become my stalkers, stalker :confused::eek::D

[seven]

Can people see that you've visited their profile on facebook? I think I've become my stalkers, stalker :confused::eek::DNope don't worry, you can't tell who's visited anything on facebook. You only leave a mark when you actually write anything, or poke someone. But that's a whole different story :)

[Wedgewood]

Haha Lee.. ... verrry witty ! Mark.. just make sure you don't wrinkle up...:)


You women are terrible :rolleyes:

[Wedgewood]

Ok maybe I should have dried my hair a little more before going to bed. I look like Rod Stewart lol

[jellybean28]

Don't you just hate bad hair days Mark :eek: Just stick your head under the tap and rub a bit of hair gel through it. Or leave it as it is Mark, a Rod Stewart hair do is a good way to loose that pretty boy image :D

Just popped in to see what I missed while I was sleeping. Must go and make up some oils for my clients.

I will be back later :)

[Wedgewood]

Just popped in to see what I missed while I was sleeping. Must go and make up some oils for my clients.

Sounds so wrong... Maybe it is just my mind :p

[spiderman]

my mind as well mate...lol

oils eh JB......oh i do like a happy ending he he he

[jellybean28]

Now now boys just your minds. Still I can see how it looks now that I've re-read it. :mad:

For clarity (please keep minds above waist for the next 5mins if you can).

Time difference so when you are partying I am sleeping that's just the way it is. I am getting behind with my work coz I spend to much time partying here, not that I'm complaining you are just so irisistable.:D

As for the oils for my clients I have to blend them into creams to make the cream smell nice. At the moment none of my clients is under 65 and 95% of them are female. Keep those minds above the waist boys.

Yes I do love my work I get paid to waffle on and the good thing is they can't remember a word I've said. :D

That's all I'm going to say coz you boys can't keep your minds above your waists for more than 5 minutes. :D

Off to check my potions

[georgie]

JB u dont get away that easily - still waiting on a pic of u!!! gm_hallowseve@live.com.au... r u going to join us on Facebook as well??? I need someone in my time zone (almost..)
Ditto:
Helen, 7 and anyone else that has posted on this thread, or just wants to send me a picture....

[Wedgewood]

What was that?, sorry my mind was elsewhere :D

[Wedgewood]

I will try and get a more recent picture, probably this weekend after I get my hair cut!

[Wedgewood]

Georgie, you were supposed to get that e-mail after work. Somehow me thinks you cheated with your mobile?

[georgie]

please dont tell me you could possible improve on the perfection already delivered to my inbox Mark? there's only so much a girl can take ... I couldnt wait to open an email from u, they're my new addiction x

[Wedgewood]

Hmm I will take that as a compliment - even though you have been naughty!

[Helen_uk]

My FB email is doggiedays@hotmail.co.uk georgie if you want to add me
x

[georgie]

not yet Mark, not yet.....

[Wedgewood]

by the way I can only access my FB in the evenings so email is better for moi :)

[jellybean28]

I'm behind the eight ball here guys

I can't download my picture on my face book page. Can try to send one to your email address Georgie. My computer is on a go slow at the moment, spending to much time here. Might have to get a new face book profile, don't want my kids checking up on me ha ha ha :eek:

Hey Georgie I will be over in Melbourne next week as I'm going to a 3 day workshop in Auburn. Can't wait I love Melbourne OK the little bit that I've seen of it. :D

[jellybean28]

AGGGGhhh computers just lost my post again,

Hey Georgie I will email you a photo, I don't have a photo posted on Facebook as I can't get it to down load. :rolleyes:

What's the weather like over in Melbourne at this time of the year Georgie? I'm coming over their next weekend for a conference in Auburn.
I can't wait only 7more sleeps whooo hoo I love Melbourne (what little I've seen of it) :D

[Helen_uk]

Added you Georgie :)

[jellybean28]

ooops didn't loose post just took a long time getting there.

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh One of those days.

drains blocked computer cranky and slow what next?

[Helen_uk]

With any luck a handsome man JB.. a girls gotta dream :p

[Wedgewood]

With any luck a handsome man JB.. a girls gotta dream :p

Some dreams come true :p

[Wedgewood]

not yet Mark, not yet.....

You have no idea what this comment has done to me :o:D:p

[Helen_uk]

I'll add you to FB later Mark ... then I can see if you deliver on your promises hehehe . Is it the same e-mail addy ?
x

[Wedgewood]

yeah x I am friends with georgie, JWD AG - so you can find me there too :)

[Helen_uk]

Ok.. I'll send a friend request x

[georgie]

JB next weekend as in 30th Jan?? ok send me an e-mail and I'll give u my mobile and home number, i'll pick u up from the airport if the timing is right....woo hoo
Melbourne is sunny and gorgeous right now, 27' but u know melbourne 4 seasons in a day, so cant predict for u soz... really hope we can catch u would be so good xxx

[georgie]

forgot to say have plenty of room if u need a place to stay, i'm 17 k's south east of Melbourne in Bayside suburbsx

[Wedgewood]

Can I come too? please.

[Wedgewood]

*Tumbleweeds*

[jellybean28]

Hey Georgie, my email just got returned to me something about being over quota I'll try again later. Weekend of the 5th Feb is when I'll be coming over. Talk with you about it later. Would love to catch up with you.

Hey Helen Yep I know my stud muffin is on his way, seems his just taking the long way round.

Had a what next, they say things come in threes, so thats it for a while.

Stud Muffin must be arriving tomorrow

[Helen_uk]

I'm sure he'll be worth the wait JB .. and if he doesn't have a white charger lets hope he can at least run to a decent bottle of wine !

[georgie]

Mark u know u dont need to ask - u have the key to my heart already ......

[Wedgewood]

Mark u know u dont need to ask - u have the key to my heart already ......

I feel all funny inside.....

[spiderman]

im crushed Georgie crushed ..... :(

[Wedgewood]

im crushed Georgie crushed ..... :(

Who's your daddy ;)

[spiderman]

ive just torn up your plane tickets again Mark :D

[Wedgewood]

ive just torn up your plane tickets again Mark :D

I would swim there for Georgie ;)

[jellybean28]

I would swim there for Georgie ;)
aww that's so sweet :o

Watch out for sharks wedgewood, lots of maneaters just waiting for yah :)

[Wedgewood]

It is worth the risk :)

[jellybean28]

Now I'm gutted,

No toy boys or stud muffins here, for me to console time to move on :(

[spiderman]

I would swim there for Georgie ;)
aww that's so sweet :o

Watch out for sharks wedgewood, lots of maneaters just waiting for yah :)
theres maneaters on this forum as well :D:D:D

[spiderman]

Now I'm gutted,

No toy boys or stud muffins here, for me to console time to move on :(

me me me me me

[Wedgewood]

theres maneaters on this forum as well :D:D:D
That is what I am hoping for:p. Oh, you meant you - thats another story :D

[spiderman]

damn busted.....

[georgie]

It's ok Spidey - I had a key made for u too xx

[Wedgewood]

What are you doing up already? thought I had more time to compose an e-mail :(

[jellybean28]

Just came over to say goodnight, as this is usually where all the action is.
Gotta go and check in with my other life.

:p:p:p

[Wedgewood]

Ok Time for a little upate on my situation (after all isn't that what this thread is about? or is it for Lee and I to flirt like mindless idiots? :))

I have been slowly moving into the marital home and hope to get it completed by this weekend (unless the promise of tickets to Oz comes true). Anyway, had a few things beginning to build up on my mind as I have a tendancy to leave everything to the last minute. Got most of it sorted yesterday, mainly organising bills and direct debits that sort of thing. I may be without internet for a short while, but will let you know (dont think something bad has happened, those days are gone for good thanks to my new special friend/s). i will try and post as often as I can, but may be limited to work hours. I may be changing jobs soon though so even that might be difficult.

My house looks 10 x better now that I have done some decorating and managed to get my hands on various bits and bobs. Its great to know that there are so many kinds people out there who will help in a crisis. Having said all that, I am still a little nervous about the move. I can't put my finger on why, but i dont think my x is the issue. Moving can be quite a stressful expirence (sp) but i dont usually let things like this bother me (says him with anxiety!). Maybe it is an indication about me growing up a little, I dont know.

I am quite optimistic about my future now though and finding someone. I think maybe now that I am ready to start looking for a second ex-wife lol if you know anyone then please e-mail me thier number!

I also got a busy schedule for the next week or so, so posting will be difficult, but will try and keep you informed.

Thanks for all the help - you are all truly special people. NEVER FORGET THAT!

Mark x

[seven]

Hi Mark
I'm so pleased for you. Well done for getting to where you are now. Reading stories like yours is inspirational to me - and I truly hope that I can get to a stage soon where I feel as comfortable with my life as you obviously do with yours.

I think the nerves about the move are only natural. I was away from the house for a week when i went to my folks, and coming back I was really nervous. It wasn't anything to do with my H, I think it's just that i'd forgotten how to live there if that makes sense. After coming back and making it the way I liked it, I very quickly felt comfortable again, and i'm sure you'll be exactly the same. Once you've got all of the decorating done, and the little items which make a home a home sorted, you'll feel so comfortable i'm sure.

Make sure you get that broadband sorted as a priority though, this place wouldn't be the same without you.

xxx

[Wedgewood]

Make sure you get that broadband sorted as a priority though, this place wouldn't be the same without you.


:o awwww thanks, I am touched :)

[spiderman]

good luck moving in Mark...if I was nearer id give you a hand mate !

Lee

[Wedgewood]

cheers man. Being from a large family (i am one of eight) i have enough people to form a chain and pass it through the hands lol

[georgie]

Mark, good luck with the move, but yes get the net sorted stat (as hey say in ER dont know what it means but.. you know HURRY)
I can totally relate to the anxiety you're feeling, I will be feeling it when it comes time for me to sell and buy again... luckily I can reside in denial until the time comes, then look out forum I'll be in need of a lot of support xxx
Looking for a new wife???? as the song goes "what about me...."

[Wedgewood]

Georgie you are such a tease.Lets just hope my lotto numbers come up (and I dont mean winning money, I mean winning you) x

You will get all the support you need (and more x) so you have no worries there.

They say STAT on house too, but I though it was something to do with blood, but I am no doctor so it could mean anything lol

Thanks for the comments :)

[Wedgewood]

Maybe JWD will know what stat is?

As soon as I post something serious on this thread it dies lol It has not been this quiet for ages :(

Mark x

[seven]

Nobody likes a smart arse, but I did latin at school... Stat is short for statim, the latin word for immediately.

Wow, i'm pretty impessed that I remembered that. The only other latin word I remember is *** which means with. I'm sure I don't need to explain why I remember that.

[seven]

Hahaha i can't believe that got blocked. I wrote "come" but spelt with a u :)

[Wedgewood]

Check out the brains on Seven. Intelligence is what I find most attractive in a woman, so people do like a smart arse :)

[seven]

Does it count as intelligence when I just remember the rude words??!!

[Wedgewood]

No, but I like that too lol

[spiderman]

Does it count as intelligence when I just remember the rude words??!!

YES it does Seven :D

[seven]

LOL our latin teacher at school was called Mr Bates. He actually insisted on us calling him Master rather than Mr. You can guess the rest. Maybe that's why I just remembered the rude stuff??!!

Mark, there is some intelligence in there somewhere along with the rude words :)

[Wedgewood]

I am sure that you are very clever seven, don't know why but I get that impression, and I am a pretty good judge of character (if I don't say so myself lol)

[seven]

Ooh it's like Mystic Meg, only Mystic Mark :)
I'd like to think i'm not a thicky, but I am naturally blonde, so sometimes I do the odd stupid thing... I have no control over that :)
Got my masters degree last year though, which was amazing considering I hated school and wanted to leave at 16!

[Wedgewood]

I Studied my degree as a sponsored student, but the company went broke before I could go do my MSc :( Still I had a day off every week for 5 years :)

[seven]

a day off a week for FIVE years?? That sounds amazing. I kind of miss studying in a way, although a pain in the rear at the time, it's a good feeling when you achieve something like that

[Wedgewood]

To be honest when graduated it gave me no satisfaction at all. I did not even go to the ceremony. Maybe I should have realised then there was something wrong upstairs, oh well ,,.,

[seven]

bloody hell, i made sure i went to my ceremonies, put too much effort in and needed photographic proof that i'd actually passed!!!

[Wedgewood]

Maybe it was my narcissistic streak (but that is going now I am getting better). I am a lot more humble now.

[seven]

Nothing wrong with a bit of narcissism (even though I can't say it properly) :)

You should finish that MSc sometime and see if it gives you any satisfaction!

[Wedgewood]

Maybe I will, but will have to wait until my circumstances change - got no time at the moment. Pretty Ironic really now that I am single lol

[JWD]

Maybe JWD will know what stat is?

As soon as I post something serious on this thread it dies lol It has not been this quiet for ages :(

Mark x


HAHA, i ASKED THIS LAST NIGHT, I know it means get your a$$ over here but nobody knew what it stood for hahah, weird.

[JWD]

mark, good luck with the move. I'm sure once you settle and make it your won you will be fine. Treat it as a new house.

[Wedgewood]

HAHA, i ASKED THIS LAST NIGHT, I know it means get your a$$ over here but nobody knew what it stood for hahah, weird.

Great minds think alike;)

[jellybean28]

I love medical shows, I used to drive my Ex crazy, coz I understood alot of the terminology.

House was the best. :D

But hey we all have our strenghs. Use computer terminology and you may as well be speaking double dutch.

Good luck with your move Mark. Lift the heavy stuff carefully, don't want to hurt your back now. :)

[Wedgewood]

Good luck with your move Mark. Lift the heavy stuff carefully, don't want to hurt your back now. :)

I am kind of hoping I do, so I can get a nice massage to relieve the pain :) :D

[jellybean28]

I'm booking my flight now :D

[Wedgewood]

I will come to you as there are more of you over there - plus I could do with a holiday :) and I promised to see Georgie

[jellybean28]

I'll make sure I get a stop over in Melbourne on my way over :)
Where's spider today? It quiet here with out him. Don't tell me he got a life outside of here?

I wanted to ask him what sort of work he does

[Wedgewood]

No idea - it is quiet without him. At least that is the competition done away with :)

[spiderman]

ha ha im back.....:D

Im a piping engineer in the oil and gas industry getting gas out of the ground for all you lot to keep warm and cook stuff !

Cant get rid of me that easy.

As it happens I do have a life outside here :D

Lee

[Wedgewood]

So you lay pipe for a living? fnar fnar

[seven]

How's that pipe of yours today spidey? :)
and how dare you have a life outside of here.... ;)

[RayCub]

Do any of us have a life outside this forum?!?!?!?!?!?

[JWD]

Do any of us have a life outside this forum?!?!?!?!?!?


HAHAHA, i'm only here making sure you lot are ok lol. The day I start playing that farmville thing on FB I'll know enough is enough.

[RayCub]

Don't get sucked into Farmville, girl!!! It's an alternate evil vegetarian-lover universe that consumes you and we'll NEVER have our JWD again!!!!!!!!!!!!! For the love of God, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahaha

[seven]

The day it comes up on my news feed that JWD has planted a crop of cabbages, and is looking forward to buying a new combine harvester, i'm outta here

[Wedgewood]

The day it comes up on my news feed that JWD has planted a crop of cabbages, and is looking forward to buying a new combine harvester, i'm outta here

hahahaha good one! but you seem to know a lot about it! Busted?

[seven]

Because it comes up on my news feed ALL the time. No matter how many times I press ignore, it just keeps coming back to annoy me! That and the bloody aquarium one. I don't care if someone's fish has just mated with a crab.

Oh the joys of FB :)

[JWD]

lol, I can hardly work out which wall i'm posting on at the minute haha.

[Wedgewood]

Just got early to start packing for the move and its only gone and snowed :(

Oh well, maybe I can still pack but it looks like I am moving tomorrow. maybe you get me for 1 more day! Lucky you.

Mark x

[georgie]

hey u know u can block updates form applications, theres a little thingo u can click in the top right hand corner of FB to stop yourself being driven demented by farmville, mafia wars etc
Gee we cover the buring issues here dont we...
Mark your a star and a wonderful friend... hope the move gets going and done so u can relax and get back on line ASAP xxx

[Wedgewood]

Looks like I will be having plenty of Mcdonalds breakfasts at the moment - for the free wifi :)

You are all great friends too, dont know how I would have coped without you all. The MSN sessions are some of the best fun I have had for ages hehe

Will try to get on as much as possible, but real life crap to do :(

Take care all

Mark x

[jellybean28]

Hi Mark

Hope the move went well for you. Did you have enough breakfasts for the free wifi? Hope it comes with good exercise game you'll need it after all those breakfasts :D.

Hope Spidys pipes are ok, he's been quite of late. :)

[Wedgewood]

I got to start running again badly lol Move was ok, but took longer than I thought. Will take most of this week to sort house, I got all my stuff but its like a bombsite. After that its all about looking after me and getting myself better.

I am improving all the time thanks to you lot and the MSN gang :) Now I can see a good life after my ex, infact I have the feeling I will be happier than ever before too long. I just got to find Mrs Right xx (maybe I have already lol)

Mark x

[spiderman]

Hope Spidys pipes are ok, he's been quite of late. :)

Oh im about......... msn with all the nutters on here was fun last few eves you will have to join in Gillian as we now know everyones sexual preferences and whether the girls have battery operated devices or not.....:D:D

[jellybean28]

am improving all the time thanks to you lot and the MSN gang :) Now I can see a good life after my ex, infact I have the feeling I will be happier than ever before too long. I just got to find Mrs Right xx (maybe I have already lol)

wow Mark that sounds great. I'm tempted to ask, where, when, who is Mrs Right, but that's none of my business. Hope you find what you're looking for.

Was on my face book page today, but didn't have much luck with it. Keeps sending Georgies address back to me and won't let me in. :(

Lappy being too slow so kept timing out, think it might be the connection where I live, couple of others here are having the same problems.
Will sort it all out next week when I get back from my trip, unless of course I meet the man of my dreams and he flies me off into the sunset.


Must admit I'm a bit off Aussie men at the moment, suffer who would rather go catch a wave, half baked farmer who at the tennis went off and came back with a dead snake to show everyone, including a bloody chart of snakes after I'd said how terrified of the bloody things I am, :eek:
other nice man (so I thought) at tennis who chatted me up for a while only to ask if I had any shares WTF, then send me an email today telling me my Tennis fees were due :rolleyes:. Must just be getting fussy :p, not that I'm really complaining as I'm having to much fun for that.

[RayCub]

Hey JB...you're on FB too?? We should add each other...who else are you 'friends' with??

[georgie]

Hi RC if it works can u pass her on to me we r having issues hooking up!!
Did u hook up with Dusty?? i had a great chat with her earlier x

[jellybean28]

Hi Spidy,

I'll have to work out this MSM thing, hopeless with the computer.

Prefences men, who don't have dead snakes hidden away, :rolleyes:

Oh and battery devices well I'm sure everyone has an assortment of them, and just when you need the right one you discover the battery is flat and you don't have a spare one. Do you have the same problem :p:D.
We are talking about the same thing here aren't we, or have I missed something? :confused:

[RayCub]

How come I don't know who Dusty is?!?!?!??!

[RayCub]

Oh, and JB, I answered your question on the "Today I'm thankful for..." thread :)

[jellybean28]

Hey girls where did you come from?

Will give face book another try tomorrow, if I've got 10 mins, trying to get readly for my course.

[JWD]

boo! Oh I am unwrll today.

I spoke with dusty today georgie

[jellybean28]

Great news Ray, I'm so happy for you.:)

Aww JWD hope you feel better soon.

[spiderman]

Gillian...im lee morton on FB (Manchester area). Wanna see your photos :D

Ray look me up too.

You all need to post up your battery operated devices as well.....lets see whos got the biggest one :eek:

Ive only got a torch tho :(

[RayCub]

Gillian, email me at raycub@live.ca so I can give you my real name and we can add each other on FB!!

Feeling any better JWD???????????

[jellybean28]

mmm might have to get another face book profile, I don't want to share too much information with my kids.:p. Come to think of it they could teach me a thing or three.

Lee is it a big one?






Your torch that is. :D

[jellybean28]

Will try all the emailing tomorrow, it's too late here for my brain to deal with technical stuff. :p.

Thanks for your email address everyone.

[spiderman]

you got mine Gillian? lee.morton2@tesco.net

Oh and my torch is a minilite :( (poweful tho:D )

[jellybean28]

got your email address lee,

will give you all my email later, will set up my face book account first.
Will try and do it tomorrow if not next week when I get back.

Make sure you've got some good batteries Lee, don't want to loose power when you need it most :D.

Time for me to go and get some sleep.

C U all L8tr. :)

[Wedgewood]

wow Mark that sounds great. I'm tempted to ask, where, when, who is Mrs Right, but that's none of my business. Hope you find what you're looking for.


Its more fantasy than reality, but at least it makes me feel better right? :D:D

[jellybean28]

Its more fantasy than reality, but at least it makes me feel better right? :D:D

Law of attraction and all that Mark. Dreams can come true. :)

[Wedgewood]

Well I can only hope, but I think I have set myself up for more punishment. I must like it subconsciously or something :) Maybe my lotto numbers will come up and save me, who knows what is around the corner.

Mark x

[Wedgewood]

Just a little update:

Move went ok but house is like a bombsite, just got some small details to sort out - but mainly tidying away all my geeky computer stuff and i didnt realise how many clothes i have.

Kids are good, hopefully when things settle in house they will come back and forth as they want. I dont care what my wife thinks about it, but they are always welcome in mine and that is what i will tell them.

Myself, I have been really good in general. Had the odd little blip, but I have promised that I will be kind to myself. I didnt realise how much I beat myself up till it was pointed out to me on MSN. Is kind of funny because I always compliment others, just not myself. Anyway, Im going to behave myself from now on and hopefully I will be rewarded for it in the end.

See you lot soon xxxxx
Mark

[Wedgewood]

Forgot to mention I have hurt my back, seems to be ceasing up on me at the moment. I knew I should not have tempted fate :( Any volunteers for a massage? (at the very least!) hehe

[Helen_uk]

I can sympathise with the back pain, put mine out Sunday whilst hoovering ! I'm barely able to stand up straight at the minute.. It's a good excuse not to do any housework though . Can't help with the massage but glad to hear the move went ok .

[Wedgewood]

Having a bad day today.

[luce]

Sending big cuddles right at you (((Mark))).

Love Luce.

[GTW]

Watcha Mark, I have not yet contributed to this long thread of yours but have read through from start till now.
I think that once anybody has been through a serious relationship problem, regardless of the outcome, it forces us to look within ourselves and own all and any negative attitudes and behaviours. If at any time during our life hence said self discovery period problems arise ( and they surely will ), because we have educated ourselves to think and handle things differently, it can often have a more troubling effect than similar problems that may have occurred previously.
Only a theory.
Good luck Mark

[Helen_uk]

Depression is no respector of sex Mark , so don't feel you have to " be a man about it ".

You will get bad days and sometimes just a little thing is enough to plunge you back down.. accept it and look forward .

I came out of " semi-retirement " to give you these words of encouragement .. so feel honoured ;)
x

[Wedgewood]

Thanks all for your words.

Mark x

[Helen_uk]

Ok... I have to say this and do with it what you will. You are not long out of a long relationship . Even if you are over your ex, it's still an unhealed wound. Getting back to " normal " takes time.

If you are ready for a new relationship then you have to be really ready. That means you have to have grieved for what you lost , be comfortable with who you are and be ready to have someone in your life again. Takes different amounts of time for different people. There is no time scale.
If you're feeling the way you describe then I have to say you're not ready, sorry if that seems harsh .

I don't visit the site much now but I look in now and then to see how you're all doing.

It took me 2 years to get over my ex and we were only together 6 years.. I dated straight afterwards and it was a disaster . I just wasn't ready , didn't feel right , was worried and still raw about what had happened. Scared. I hoped the person I dated could help me get over that, then realised only one person could. Me .

It's been around 9 months for you right ? And up until a few weeks ago you were still wanting to reconcile with your wife.

Give yourself some time . That's my advice, for what it's worth.

[Wedgewood]

Thanks Helen, not to harsh at all.

[Wedgewood]

I have just deleted my last 3 posts as I dont want to dwell and I have a habit of re-reading my posts. Thanks for the advice, I do feel better already.

[Helen_uk]

Be kind to yourself Mark. If the new person in your life cares about you, she'll understand how you're feeling and why.

If you add together everything that's happened to you over the last months... marriage break up, moving out and back in to the marital home and being diagnosed with depression , that's an awful lot to deal with . You'd be super human if you didn't feel on shakey ground.

[Wedgewood]

Thanks Helen, but i do have a narcissistic view sometimes. I do think I should be able to cope with anything, when clearly I cant. Its typical alpha male nonsense, but I guess that's just the way I am. I love talking to people and confiding in them, it is something I was never able to do with my X. On the other hand though, I feel it puts too much pressure on them. Maybe its just the way that my x used to react that makes me feel that way, but hopefully when it sinks in that people do actually care what I say, and sympathise/empathise then I will feel more secure. Hope that makes sense.

Welcome back to the forums by the way, its not the same without you x

Mark x

[Helen_uk]

I'll let you into a little secret. When my ex and I were together he managed to make me feel that everything I said/ did/ thought was wrong.. by the time we split I had no faith in my own judgement. I didn't trust my own intuition and I was terrrified to offer an opinion or even make a decision in case I did the wrong thing.

It took me 2 years to get over that feeling. I did it with the help of the people on here and with offline friends.

Most people, in my experience are flattered when someone trusts them enough to confide in them. I think on here for the most part people are more than happy to listen. It's a little more complicated out in the real world, especially with those you're close to because they are bound to be biased, they know you. I had enormous difficulty confiding in the people I was closest to and I know my dad in particular felt quite hurt by my refusal to do so .. he was too close you see and I didn't want him to hurt on my behalf.

Everyone on here has been through the same or similar and so they can empathise without judging . You've offered excellent advice to some newbies here yourself . It helps people to know they're not the only one going through this and it helps them to see there does come a time when you can move forward. Sharing how you're feeling not only helps you, it helps them too.

I think all you need to do is learn it's ok to be you.
x

[Helen_uk]

Oh and thanks for the welcome back by the way :)
x

[Wedgewood]

I think all you need to do is learn it's ok to be you.
x
That is the key I feel. The people who I unload on have never indicated there is a problem with it, it's just my mind working overtime. Maybe I will just sit back and see what happens. I just dont want a good thing to end x

[Wedgewood]

I'm much better today, got my head back together. I'm not going to let one blip put me off. I have been doing well lately and must not loose sight of the fact. A lot of good things have happened recently and having a more positive outlook must be influencing that fact.

I am determined to turn my life around, and yesterdays ups and downs only re-enforced my belief. I am going to take motivation out of adversity and use it as my guiding force to change. I know its easier said than done, but when I read back though my thread it amazes me how far I have come. My X is almost gone out of my thoughts altogether, even though she is still playing games.

I have had my faith in women restored thanks to the people on this forum, and I believe there is someone out there who I will be willing to trust.

Thanks all and take care xxx

Mark x

[Helen_uk]

It was just a wobble.. we all have those. Onwards and upwards .
x

[spiderman]

Hi all just doesnt feel the same without Marks thread on the 1st page...

Lee

[JWD]

lol, such attention seeking

[Wedgewood]

Thanks for your concern J, but to day I feel really down again.

There are some circumstances that have contributed to this mood, but I wont discuss all of them now. However here is a small update:

I have been served with 'notification of proceedings' which is the start of my divorce. This did not bother me at the time (arrived on Thursday), but now this seems an issue. Even though I don't mind the divorce happening, it is driving home the feeling of loneliness.

My x has sold our family car. I have no idea why, but this is bothering me. Usually I would advise people to ignore these things, but in my current state it seems to be an issue.

Financially I have issues trying to pay the mortgage alone and run the house. I pay my way with the kids via CSA and also buy them things when I have them, but it seems I am destined to live in poverty.

All of these reasons make me feel like I have had enough of this. I just cant take any more. Usually I would hide away now, but I think its getting beyond that.

Mark x

[spiderman]

Mark hang in there mate.....ive had the NISI and in about 6 weeks will actually be divorced and yes at the time I felt lonely and sad but once the ball is rolling at a faster pace you will see that its for the best as she wants this to happen so get your head into that frame of mind....

I dont think living so close helps matters either...have you considered selling the marital home and moving a few miles away...if for no other reason your well being ? Just a thought ?

Chin up mate...I know its difficult at times, hell been there got the t-shirt, but you need to be on the ball for your kids sake...just concentrate on them for now......!!

Lee

A car is just a car mate dont let it linger in your head

[jellybean28]

Mark, Spider has given some good advice there.

Mark we are all here for you hun if you need us, sorry about dumping my worries on you, didn't realize how bad your feeling till I read your post.

Hun we're all here for you, lots of cyber friends who care about you.

I'm not going to give you any advice Hun, but I'm sending you cyber hugs and some positive vibes on the side.

xxxxxJB

[Wedgewood]

Its ok JB, please keep messaging me as normal. I will continue as usual rather than hide away, it never does me much good anyway!

I know there are lots of people out there who care, but my story doesn't seem to fit this forum anymore, so i am not starting a new thread as I originally intended.

I am feeling slightly better now, but might have an early night and watch a movie or something.

Love you all

Mark x

[LT83]

mate,

i havent spoken to you before but let me just say, everyday you have to make the choice to have a good day. You have to decide to be strong and use the day to do something to improve your life.

you will have week moments but eventually they will become fewer and fewer until eventually you lose any feeling to the situation and decide to take control of your emotions again. just like a cut or a bruise you need time to heal and you should do all things to ensure you dont aggravate your wounds.

do something for yourself.



PS: for all of you that are feeling low, take cashew nuts. random yes, but they contains higher levels of niacin (anti depressant nutrients) than prozac.

[sean1234]

Hi mate . Funny I'm having a real low last couple of days. Five months in now. God sounds like a prison sentence doesn't it. I too am locking myself away, living in fear. I too am struggling financially supporting my boys on my own as she says she can't give me anything as her rents too high. I'm awaiting divorce papers soon mate. Last time we spoke I pleaded I don't want a divorce , her reply was well your f.... King going to get one. Don't know how she can be so cold but she is. Just found out that apparently she said we were holding her back as she has ambitions and has finally grown up. Acting like a kid if you ask me . Mark mate I guess we are just gonna have to bide our times mate. What goes around comes around they say. Even after all that she's said to me I still love her. Is there part of you that loves your ex. I'm sure there is. That's the stinger eh. All I think we can do till were stronger is survive. Stay strong. I havnt talked to my ex for a month now and it kills. This wasn't our choices yet we have to pick up the prices. I too have been diagnosed with depression. I thought tell me about it. The pills work for a while but I find you bottle it up more and when you go it all comes out in floods. It's all such a shame if you ask me. So many people on these threads destroyed by the people we thought cared for us. Can we trust again. I don't know but I do know we are all left with deep scars and if we find that special person we should not be ashamed to tell them and vent as we do on this thread. I say this because it seems common on here , definently with me, that communication became such an issue. If we could have talked to our partners and opened up as we do on here maybe our marriages would have been better and we wouldn't be here. I don't think we are to blame , I just think we have learned an important lesson in life. Be who you really are mate because that's what makes you special. That's what ithink anyway. Chin up mate talk soon sean