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12th May 2002, 09:57 AM
hi,
i am a norwegian woman, i am married to a nigerian ma.
since 7 years he always stays out for 1/2 year. then he comes back. when i tried to divorce, he always got very close , stating that he loves me and so on. he never supported our marriage financially. i used tio have a lot of money so i didnt find a way to really force him to do so, since money was there anyway. now money is out and he is out and i have found out that jhe is living with somebody else in nigeria having a baby with her.
he is refusing to tell me. i have given him until 31 of May to be here. The problem is that we have two children and that his culture has a totally different view on divorce. i would have liked to divorce now because it is tearing me up. but his friend who is also close to me says that i should gove him time so that i can confront him and get him to tell the truth so that i can give the reason when i divorce.
my other problem is that i still have so much feelings for him. it seems sick to me when i look at myself since he is obvioulsy using me, only in our good times we had such wonderful experiences together.
i go thriugh so many different feelings. i have dine so many things for myself and i really feel i am moving on(working on my own weaknesses in the household, starting to refind my creativity etc.)
but what i cant understand is why i still love him.
how can i work on it?
confused in germany
i am a norwegian woman, i am married to a nigerian ma.
since 7 years he always stays out for 1/2 year. then he comes back. when i tried to divorce, he always got very close , stating that he loves me and so on. he never supported our marriage financially. i used tio have a lot of money so i didnt find a way to really force him to do so, since money was there anyway. now money is out and he is out and i have found out that jhe is living with somebody else in nigeria having a baby with her.
he is refusing to tell me. i have given him until 31 of May to be here. The problem is that we have two children and that his culture has a totally different view on divorce. i would have liked to divorce now because it is tearing me up. but his friend who is also close to me says that i should gove him time so that i can confront him and get him to tell the truth so that i can give the reason when i divorce.
my other problem is that i still have so much feelings for him. it seems sick to me when i look at myself since he is obvioulsy using me, only in our good times we had such wonderful experiences together.
i go thriugh so many different feelings. i have dine so many things for myself and i really feel i am moving on(working on my own weaknesses in the household, starting to refind my creativity etc.)
but what i cant understand is why i still love him.
how can i work on it?
confused in germany