My wife is leaving me

[dan6262]

Hello,

She told me that she wants to go a week without any contact. No texts, no phone calls, no meetings etc. I really hope that this does make her miss me. As you said I have tried lots of ways to make her see how much I love her and what she is throwing away. The one thing that we haven't done yet is had proper space. It's going to hurt like hell not to have any contact. I guess though if this is for good then this is what it will be like. I am not giving up on her and I hope she doesn't give up on me. It's just shocks me you can from thinking the relationship is strong to the opposite is so little time.

Take care

Dan

[huting]

i think this will be good dan, although its not what u want, its what she wants, give her her space and hopefully she will realise what she is missing, which is you. good luck and keep in touch x

[dan6262]

Thank you! - I will keep hold of hope. Thanks for the support.

Dan

[912jws]

I feel for you Dan but give it time, hopefully she will give it some proper thought and realise what she has.

Jon

[ken94]

I have seen it few times on the forum but I don't think she will give some thoughts about it.
And Dan don't expect her to have thought about it. It is more the stage of trying to escape the reality now than thinking about it. She will but only when she get stronger. A week is too short.
Unfortunatly it takes few weeks or months.

On another matter, what happen with the beginning of the thread ?

Ken

[marriedman]

This might sound counter intuitive but when the week is over and in general, being clingy is a big mistake.

You said you have been trying to show her you love her, and while that's good, being too mushy, obsessive, clingy, appeasing, etc. is a bad thing. Stick up for yourself. Keep it a blend of doing what she wants AND doing what you want (where to eat, decisions, activities). Demostrate quiet strength. Show her you love her, but you CAN live and thrive without her.

Be upbeat, positive, confident and by all means, laugh and smile. Do not mope around and sulk because you want her to love you or feel something for you again. You can't guilt her into feeling something for you and if she fakes it because she feels sorry for you not only will it be temporary and fake but she will lose respect and attraction for you and she will want to leave even more.

Stay strong my friend. Show her what she might be giving up. If she thinks she's giving up an emotional, sulking wimp she's going to run. But if you show her that you've got things going for you, that your strong, funny, fun and confident...she might think twice before running off.

I wish you the best.

[ken94]

So right marriedman about being clingy and everything !

[Ageing Grace]

Good advice there, Married :)

[sean1234]

Hi mate.my wife has also left me last sunday night im in such a mess.We got together at a very young age and had our first child when she was 17 and i was 20.im now 38.weve been together 18 years.she just came down on sunday night and said she was leaving.I thoought she was joking.Both my children have stayed with me They are 16 and 13.She must have been so unhappy.Ithink she thought they would leave dad and thier home.Now looking at it although not with a straight mind i can see she was unhappy but i buried my head in the sand.I have done all the things she expected me to do like texting,crying and phoning.She had planned this and i think she just snapped.We had been living with my father who is elderley for 8 years as my mother died at the age of 48.This has had an effect on my marriage but i didnt realise it until now.Im so scared its too late as i relise she is the most important person in my life,i just didnt let her know it.
At the moment im coping with my boys but inside im dying.Ifeel so lonely.She says she loves me but not in love with me anymore.Ive lost over a stone in 2 weeks i feel ugly.Her friend has given her a deposit for a flat and she has moved there with nothing.All her family have been my family and my only brother is married to her sister.Its such a mess.She is still wearing my wedding ring and refused to take mine back.Is there hope i do not know.The boys are very angry and are not speaking to her and have not seen her.Tis i know is not helping me but i dont want to pressurise them.Thers lots more if anyone wants to know. Sean

[jahdog]

life can be a real b#t$@. join the club dude. good luck to you. hard to handle these changes.