Making a big deal about salary

[Braveheart2009]

Has anyone been through similar with there partner where they keep comparing your salary to others and trying to make you inferior to others saying you only earn this much and so and so does that job and earns more than you?

I dislike this attitude.

[j92cool]

Yes I know what you mean. I had been the breadwinner for most of our married life (27 years) but never mentioned it as although I wished my H earned more we managed.

In the last 2 years my H changed jobs and for the first time ever was earning more than me and my goodness didn;t I hear about it. He made it very well know to anyone that would listen that he was earning more than me. The change in him was the kiss of death for our marraige. All of a sudden he was the big man and didn't need me anymore. After all he was special now and deserved better.

Not money but the attitude attached to it can kill relationships. You would think that more money would make thing better but it was the begining of the end for my marraige.

[Braveheart2009]

Yeah I get you. I find that more money doesn't make you more happier, but it gives you more options to do things in life holiday, car, home etc.

[huting]

Perhaps ur partner is not intentionally trying to make u feel inferior, maybe in an odd ball sort of way she is trying to help u. More money less work etc. I have pushed my h in the past but not out of trying to hurt him or make him feel inferior but to say u can do it, my h is not v motivated.

I worry 4 u and ur marriage, you seem to focus on bad points rather than the good, every wife has an issue with the mil at some point, money is always a problem, u r lucky in the sense that ur wife is not cheating, alcoholic,drugs. I'm not saying that ur problems are silly or not important but please look at ur marriage as a whole,the bigger picture.

Do u love ur wife? Do u want to make it work/ be together? If you answered yes to theses then you need to have a talk with ur wife, tell her about the things that r bothering u, such as her making u feel inferior due to job, ur mother etc, then try and work it out together.

I'm not trying to be judgemental, I just feel sad that u feel like u have no other choice but to leave,when u have many options available to u

It is easier to walk away then to stay and fight, but marriage is always worth fighting for, wishing u all the best xx