I`m stupped

[Unregistered]

I cheated on my wife,and didn`t wont to believe it. I went out to get someone for a threesome,but Isleep with her first,I sleep with her alot of times before I could get my wife to do the threesome. My wife is hurting real bad.I love her so much that it`s killing me to see her this way, what can I do to stop her pian?

[Liz]

Well you can start by saying sorry and asking her to forgive you, but unfotunately the consequences of what we do just don't go away. Perhaps you might do better to face up to her pain, try to understand it and experience it for yourself so that she knows you care rather than just wanting it to go away. You also need to face the pain in yourself and be willing to get any help you need to make sure you don't do something like that to her again.

[Unregistered]

My wife and i are haveing some real bad time. i told her about all the things she wonted to know about,i told her some of the thing could end our marriage,and she could not take it. she siad she could so i told her all of it. i lied about all the things i told her for about 3 mouths at first,but the gilt got to me.al this started when we begone talking about haveing a 3some,we were to do it togather,but i seen someone first.i jokeingly told her i had someone and she said i bet not,but later on that night she tolked about how she wonted to get someone.to make a long story short,i had sex with this person, alot of times,to keep her untill my wife was ready. i talked about the 3 some to the lady,and it was ok with her.my wife came around, and we all enjoyed it.it happend about 5 times,and things fell apart.after that i told her everything.i hate what i have done to her.she can`t get over it, sometime i think she does not wont to get over it.she has told me to get out 6 times but always give me a reason to make me stay,i really love her, and i know she loves me. i hurt her bad,and it`t killing me.i fell better since i told the truth, but she fill worst,sometime i think i should have keep the lie going

[Liz]

It is tough, but you can't turn the clock back - just learn from it and do what you can now to show you that you love her. Why not have a look at ome of the articles in our infidelity section (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/) to see how other people have come through and tried to rebuild their marriages.

[copycat1972]

you need to understand that she did the 3 some for you and you broke the rules before you got started. so, she going to hurt for a long time for this. you need to be patient and undestanding during this time and answer all of her questions.it's going to be a hard long road for her to get over this and trust you again. i will pray for you both and i hope you can work this out.