missconfidence
24th July 2009, 12:51 AM
I had a magic wand !
I have been married since 2002, my hubby has his sons from a previous marriage as well as I do.
We have fought like cat and dog alot of the time, with some really good times inbetween.
There are 2 sides to a story - Im not interested in sex anymore and I know why - Im not in love with him anymore - the name calling has taken its toll on me, as well as the odd hands round my throat and him not liking my son who lives with us.
I dont trust him anymore - he hasnt had an affair but there are things he has done when I have asked him not to - might be silly to some people but its hurt me big style and so dont trust him at all, so dont tell him anything anymore.
Im so desperate to get out of this marriage - 2nd one for us both.
The leaving will be like a weight has been lifted from me - its the sorting out of my animals - I still miss the horse i had to sell in my first divorce so not looking forward to losing this one through divorce, plus my dogs and budgies. I know my chicken are going to have to go for definate.
People may say that its stress due to work thats causing him to be so unbearable but I know that he is going to push me over the edge one day.
My confidence is high as Im busy reasearching 2 business' to-be for myself to start.
His name calling and putting me down isnt going to work -it did in my first marriage but not again.
Im looking at property to rent but there isnt any that allows animals.
Ideally I would like to move back to the region I came from, need to get my name on council housing list but they need proof of divorce proceedings and I really would like to got DIY as we dont have a house of our own - it comes with his job and we have no children together so there really isnt any need for solicitors.
Marriage guidance is out of the question - he wont go and Im just not wanting to make us work anymore.
Im not working at mo due to ill health and operation looming so would be out of action for quite some time. He wont be able to look after me due to his work committments and I dont know of anyone to help.
Im wondering what Im doing on here - Im sure Im on the wrong forum as dont want to save my marriage - he hates my son and has been nasty to him and me.
I know once I have sorted out my animals and somewhere for me and my son to go - we shall go.
Its such a huge step but its got to be taken.
What do I do when he flies off the handle - whe I walk out the room only to be persued by him - if I lock the door of the room Im in - only for him to bang it down - what then ?
I have been married since 2002, my hubby has his sons from a previous marriage as well as I do.
We have fought like cat and dog alot of the time, with some really good times inbetween.
There are 2 sides to a story - Im not interested in sex anymore and I know why - Im not in love with him anymore - the name calling has taken its toll on me, as well as the odd hands round my throat and him not liking my son who lives with us.
I dont trust him anymore - he hasnt had an affair but there are things he has done when I have asked him not to - might be silly to some people but its hurt me big style and so dont trust him at all, so dont tell him anything anymore.
Im so desperate to get out of this marriage - 2nd one for us both.
The leaving will be like a weight has been lifted from me - its the sorting out of my animals - I still miss the horse i had to sell in my first divorce so not looking forward to losing this one through divorce, plus my dogs and budgies. I know my chicken are going to have to go for definate.
People may say that its stress due to work thats causing him to be so unbearable but I know that he is going to push me over the edge one day.
My confidence is high as Im busy reasearching 2 business' to-be for myself to start.
His name calling and putting me down isnt going to work -it did in my first marriage but not again.
Im looking at property to rent but there isnt any that allows animals.
Ideally I would like to move back to the region I came from, need to get my name on council housing list but they need proof of divorce proceedings and I really would like to got DIY as we dont have a house of our own - it comes with his job and we have no children together so there really isnt any need for solicitors.
Marriage guidance is out of the question - he wont go and Im just not wanting to make us work anymore.
Im not working at mo due to ill health and operation looming so would be out of action for quite some time. He wont be able to look after me due to his work committments and I dont know of anyone to help.
Im wondering what Im doing on here - Im sure Im on the wrong forum as dont want to save my marriage - he hates my son and has been nasty to him and me.
I know once I have sorted out my animals and somewhere for me and my son to go - we shall go.
Its such a huge step but its got to be taken.
What do I do when he flies off the handle - whe I walk out the room only to be persued by him - if I lock the door of the room Im in - only for him to bang it down - what then ?