Shane
18th June 2009, 12:15 PM
I think that everyone of us on this forum takes too much responsability for our partners mistakes, everybody says maybe he's this because or maybe she's that because? and analyse and and try to better ourselves into the ground, why we didnt do the wrong thing its not our fault they cheated!!
And lets all be honest with each other now, none of us would consider exacting the same actions on our abusers, why? are we perfect? ,No!!
Its because we value our relationships and marriages, we know that marriage is for life good and bad, and that communication can sort anything, the thought of affairs never even comes into our heads, these abusers are just spoilt children pitying thereselves as the victums all the time.
If we all had superstar syndrome and had an affair everytime something didnt go our way then we would be having affairs every other day?
Where do you draw the line with these people, tuesdays affair was because? and thursdays affair was because?
Communication can fix anything and if someone is selfish,careless and reckless enough to willingly destroy a relationship, a family etc at the drop of a hat rather than talk about what they need, then there is no future with this person, and they will probably end up repeating this pattern all there lives and eventually end up bitter and alone.
I think one thing we achieve on this sight is understanding for the pain and actions these people commit, but i also think that the real lesson and most important lesson we should take from these awful situations is to make sure that our eyes are wide open at the beginning of our next relationships, and we must consider ourselves completely in the selection and not ignore little signs due to attraction, our true and long term happiness can only come from seeing a selfish person with open eyes from day one.
Love is Blind and too much make up is a mask!!!!
And lets all be honest with each other now, none of us would consider exacting the same actions on our abusers, why? are we perfect? ,No!!
Its because we value our relationships and marriages, we know that marriage is for life good and bad, and that communication can sort anything, the thought of affairs never even comes into our heads, these abusers are just spoilt children pitying thereselves as the victums all the time.
If we all had superstar syndrome and had an affair everytime something didnt go our way then we would be having affairs every other day?
Where do you draw the line with these people, tuesdays affair was because? and thursdays affair was because?
Communication can fix anything and if someone is selfish,careless and reckless enough to willingly destroy a relationship, a family etc at the drop of a hat rather than talk about what they need, then there is no future with this person, and they will probably end up repeating this pattern all there lives and eventually end up bitter and alone.
I think one thing we achieve on this sight is understanding for the pain and actions these people commit, but i also think that the real lesson and most important lesson we should take from these awful situations is to make sure that our eyes are wide open at the beginning of our next relationships, and we must consider ourselves completely in the selection and not ignore little signs due to attraction, our true and long term happiness can only come from seeing a selfish person with open eyes from day one.
Love is Blind and too much make up is a mask!!!!