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jklsr55
10th June 2009, 07:24 PM
I am glad i found this great forum. I really believe Satan's attack on the Christian bedroom is his silver bullet in the breakdown of the Christian marriage; and by proxy, the Christian family. God created sex for us right!!?? A blessing for his children... We need to take Sex back and restore it to the proper place... the marriage bed between a man and a woman. Shouldn't we be free to stand up in church and thank God for our amazing sexlife!!?? Can you imagine if someone in your congregation did that?? God should be praised for great sex!!

Raymond
11th June 2009, 08:49 AM
I for one do thank God for sex. It is a fantastic gift within the sanctity of marriage. What is there to debate? I am not going to tell you what I do in the bedroom. No offence meant.

Raymond

Dave
15th July 2009, 10:05 PM
Here here!!

rnsxton
3rd August 2009, 03:14 AM
dont know wud would really debate this. .

sex is to be a great part of the marriage by Gods standard in the bible BUT it seems as if your mate is always tired from working. Or they sad they wanted to do it God's way before you got married, then when you get married there is not much interest in sex. They dont initiate at all. they are to tired for work, make you wonder what they are really doing at work. hmmmm

they sad tey were going to do tings in te marrage and then when they get married they do the opposite. . whether Satan is a factor or not it is our decision to act on it.

so one person finds themselves locked in a marriage until te person is done using them and leaves the covenant. . used up again.

Susan Strict
13th September 2009, 10:45 PM
Sex, like almost everything else in a marriage, doesn't just happen and go on happening. You have to work at it. As years go by, it may become more difficult to keep the spark you may have had at the beginning.

Now, I strongly believe that sex between husband and wife is one of the greatest gifts God has given us. And like so many of God's gifts, it isn't always straightforward. Also, we're all different, and our desires are different. For me, although I believe that sex is at its very best ONLY when it's between husband and wife and anything else is, at best, a physical gratification that really isn't part of what God wants for us, there is the most wonderful variety of what we want and what we like. There is a very strong school of thought among some Christians (and others) that anything very much more than the "missionary position" is a sin. I exaggerate, but you take the point, I hope. There is a wide range of alternatives that work for some people and don't work for others - and as long as it's between husband and wife AND both partners consider it, talk about it, and agree to it, and make sure it's not potentially dangerous or harmful, then I say try it. I'm not advocating changing lifestyle, I'm advocating changing bedroom style - or, at least, see if there are changes that suit you. Don't dismiss anything until you've thought about it, or even - cautiously - tried it. Don't assume it's "kinky" or "wrong" because it's not "conventional". I can't tell anyone what will be right for them, nor what will be wrong for them, but I do believe that most marriages where sex has become uninteresting for one or both partners can be given a new sparkle by thinking outside the conventions.

I'm not going to tell you what "does it for me". I will tell you that my husband and I have the most wonderful sex life, and it's mainly because we're a little unconventional - something we only discovered after many years of marriage. We love games, we love fantasy, we love "toys". As I said, it's not right for everyone. I write and publish fantasy stories also - no, it's not "porn", it's erotica. The difference? Porn degrades, which is wrong. Erotica glorifies sex. Creating fantasy and then playing it, in the bedroom, with your spouse, can be wonderful. And don't be misled by some who would say that any of it is "mental infidelity". It's not. Not for us. If I have a fantasy (for example - and, as I said, I'm not going into all the details) of being ravished by a fireman, or carried off and treated as a slavegirl, or, for that matter, owning a slaveboy, then I can play it all with my husband in the privacy of our own bedroom. It's wonderful. The strength of the fantasy the human mind can create is breathtaking - another of God's great gifts. And that strength, together with the power of sex, can and should bind a marriage together if used properly and responsibly.

Try it.

Susan