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3rd April 2002, 09:12 AM
My wife and I have been married for 6 Years. We're both aged 30.

We have 2 great kids, and are finacially secure.

Last year I was diagnosed with Depression brought on by work. We fixed that situation and I'm definatly not depressed (I Don't feel like I did last year)

We run our own buisness and seems OK, I do the Billable work and she does the accounts.

Lately, I found the following.

Our sex drives are universes apart, we've been intimate 4 times since November last year. Obviously I'm the one wanting it all the time, and she "When the mood is right"

I've also found that we are spending alot of time appart. When I get home I may have to do a few things regarding work.
But when I've finished and come inside, she's alway watching "her TV Program" and I get left in the cold, if I try to make conversation, it's very onsided.

We also seem to get very angry with each other very quickly, it seems as though the most trivial things get to us.

I've (Well I think I have) tried to be a "good" husband. I know this sounds petty, but I gave up corporate box tickets to a Rugby game, and a day out on a 44ft Launch, because she had a cold. I also looked after the kids totally over the past easter weekend, as she had a school reunion to goto, and now she is saying she has a cold again.

I know this sounds probably very one sided, but I remember happier times, what changed ?


Cory

Kate
3rd April 2002, 11:50 AM
It sounds as if difficulties may have been building between you for some time. The strain of you being ill may have taken its toll on your wife.

Have you thought of doing a marriage enrichment weekend (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/) of some sort. These are designed to give couples a boost by creating space for them away from the pressures of everyday life where they can work on building on the good in their marriages. It's so easy to drift apart with the pressures of life today and as the coldness grows between a couple, it's easy to get discouraged and hurt unless you can find something to break the downward spiral.