a child from adultry

[Unregistered]

My husband had been having an affair for two years. A child has resulted from this. (The other woman had tried to trap him). Does anyone know of any help that might be available in the UK or has anyone suffered a similar problem. I can't even be literate in my writing as I am just numb. He is repentant and wants to make it work within our marriage but how do you get a handle in this? We have a 9 year old daughter ourselves - how do we tell her?
I would be grateful for any input

[Dave]

There are several issues in your posting.

I think I'd recommend that you start by browsing our section on Infidelity and affairs (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/) - you'll find several articles there on rebuilding trust etc.

You ask about telling your daughter - I'd have a look at the site run by Peggy Vaughn (there are links in the section above) where she discusses the issue - I think our advice would always be to be honest and open with her, and to do it together so that she knows she is still loved by both of you.

I think the other big question you have to face is what your relationship is going to be with this other child - your husband, and because of your marriage, the two of you - have reponsibilities to him/her too.

There have been a few threads on this topic before - try the search feature and have a browse - this one (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?threadid=82&highlight=child+AND+affair) might help.

Dave