husband moving out.. but wants to rent the house next door???

[annielongo]

i need some advice please..

Husband and I are splitting up.. we have had the talk and agreed on a June move out date. He has some financial stuff he needs to clear up first before he can move. Im ok with letting him stay untill then.. however, last night he said he is thinking about renting a house down the street!! WHAT??? no thank you.. to me.. this is quite creepy like he is trying to keep an eye on me or something. I have a 12 year old son who calls him dad, and husband is claiming he wants to be close to him. weve only been married 3 years and he is not the childs bio-dad.

why in the world would you want to live next door? any one who can give me some advice or opinions on this would be most helpful. I know i cant control any one but that is just too close for comfort.

[dave123]

Hi Annie,

Without much to go on for the reasons behind the breakdown it's quite hard to come up with any advice other than be honest.

If the same street is too close then tell him, if you need to define his future relationship with his step son then lay out your feelings on the matter and let him think it over.

There may be an element of control that he is trying to keep, knowing your movements etc, but depending on how he was within the relationship only you will know if this is the case.

The way that you've written your post makes me wonder about a lot of things in your situation. Keep posting, just letting off steam on here can really help, and a couple of people on here are real gems with advice and moral support in difficult times.

Good luck with your new future with your son,

Dave

[Raymond]

I can't really add to that good answer. Dave is right only you will understand his motivation. As Dave says talk it through with him. It's hard to have a fresh start with him around I would have thought.

Raymond