4 years ago...

[Helen_uk]

4 years ago I joined this site full of depression and anxt. My live-in partner of the time was causing me so much anguish I came close to taking my own life, twice.

Reading through the threads of late I can totally empathise with what some of you are going through.The online porn activity,the hidden text messages, the lies, the affairs. It makes me sad to see so many people going through what I did.

I did the " checking up ", the wanting so much to believe in him , falling for his lies.. because it was easier than losing him..feeling sick to the pit of my stomach everytime he left the house. We couldn't talk things through, he wouldn't allow it. Looking back it was all about him.

I finally saw the light and ended the relationship when I discovered he was seeing a young girl of 18...At the time it broke my heart.

This was almost 2 years ago now.... I'm glad to say my mental health is fully restored and my emotional self is back on an even keel. I'm in a relationship with someone who isn't local to me and have been for some months... It suits me not to live with anyone right now and to have some space when I need it, it's also helped me to rebuild my trust in men.To stay in the relationship when he's so far away I have had to learn to trust him. We began as friends and have never looked back.

To all of you who are newly alone this Christmas I say, have hope, time does heal, life does go on and more than that, can bring happiness and peace of mind . To those who are going through the doubts and uncertainties whilst trying to mend your relationships I say, trust your instincts, look to your own hearts and protect them.

To all of you I wish a Happy Christmas and a peaceful and happy new year.

Helen x

[dave123]

Hi Helen, thanks for sharing. Good on you for doing so well.

Hopefully i'll be able post a similar message at some point in the future! Doesn't feel like it right now though...

Best wishes to everyone reading the posts on here. I hope well have some happiness today, tomorrow and every day after. I'm trying to avoid building Xmas up to be especially "happy" as i know i can only be disappointed, i'll take a little bit of joy wherever and whenever possible at the moment!

Dave

[Dave]

Thanks Helen - and thanks for dropping by again with news. I really do appreciate the way old faces drop by once in a while to share their journey, and the road to recovery, with those newer here.

Have a great Christmas

Dave

[Raymond]

Glad to hear you have picked up Helen. We were very worried at one stage.

You've hit on a truth about hearts.

Above all else guard your heart for out of it flows the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

Have a good Christmas.

Raymond

[aqua]

Hi Helen

Glad to hear you're doing well. It can be a very bumpy journey and who knows how it will turn out in the end?

I joined this site nearly two years ago. I went through some very dark times. There's enough evidence on how I felt on old threads!!! This site helped me through the worst of it. You, Helen and jools in particular were like angels to me.

Two years on, life is good. I never thought I'd get through and be happy again.There is no man in my life and I think that is a bonus! I don't want the hassle as my life is full enough!

Take care
aqua

[Helen_uk]

Hi Aqua !

Great to hear from you again and glad to hear all is going well. There aren't many old faces around on here these days , Jools did pop back for an update a while ago and is happy, so that's good.

I guess as people recover from the crisis they're in when they come here searching for help and support , they move away from the site, and that's good in a way as it shows they no longer need it.

It's lovely to hear that you're happy and settled... time is a great gift huh ?

Take care and keep in touch.

Helen x