Sherelle
12th February 2002, 03:00 AM
Should I marry my boyfriend?
I have a 2 year old son from a previous unmarried relationship and my ex is a brilliant dad. We separated early last year and soon after he meet someone else, they both seem happy. My son likes his new partner and my ex and I share all the responsibility of our son. Our son was planned and at that time neither of us where interested in marriage or the church.
For the past 5 months I have been seeing a very nice man who clearly adores me and gives me lots of compliments and attention. He has met my son once for 10 minutes (I want to be sure before introducing my son into forming a new relationship).
We are both intellectual and have good jobs, so financial we are independent. We get on very well and can talk for hours on the phone as we have very similar ideas in life. However, when we meet I am just not as attracted to him not becuase he is not good looking (to me) because he is okay. We are both activitists and strieve for what we want. We now both attend church (although in different parishes).
I like him but do not love him. Whearas, he loves me and enjoys cuddling me. I don't like it. I am very confident and know that if I liked him more I would have no problem him touching me.
I do not want to loose him as he is the first person I have ever been able to agree on when it comes to the important things in life. He has no children and his longest relationship was 18 months, whilst mine was 4 years (with my sons dad).
My problem - he likes me more than I like him and I don't want to break up and don't know how to make things better.
He does not want to be friends as he said he doesn't make friends with women.
We both want to settle down and get married but can it be together???
Help - we are both 34 years old.
I have a 2 year old son from a previous unmarried relationship and my ex is a brilliant dad. We separated early last year and soon after he meet someone else, they both seem happy. My son likes his new partner and my ex and I share all the responsibility of our son. Our son was planned and at that time neither of us where interested in marriage or the church.
For the past 5 months I have been seeing a very nice man who clearly adores me and gives me lots of compliments and attention. He has met my son once for 10 minutes (I want to be sure before introducing my son into forming a new relationship).
We are both intellectual and have good jobs, so financial we are independent. We get on very well and can talk for hours on the phone as we have very similar ideas in life. However, when we meet I am just not as attracted to him not becuase he is not good looking (to me) because he is okay. We are both activitists and strieve for what we want. We now both attend church (although in different parishes).
I like him but do not love him. Whearas, he loves me and enjoys cuddling me. I don't like it. I am very confident and know that if I liked him more I would have no problem him touching me.
I do not want to loose him as he is the first person I have ever been able to agree on when it comes to the important things in life. He has no children and his longest relationship was 18 months, whilst mine was 4 years (with my sons dad).
My problem - he likes me more than I like him and I don't want to break up and don't know how to make things better.
He does not want to be friends as he said he doesn't make friends with women.
We both want to settle down and get married but can it be together???
Help - we are both 34 years old.