newlywedfred
18th June 2008, 02:50 PM
Hi there. I posted on this forum a few times last summer. I was in a real mess back then, but I wanted to share my story with this board, so hopefully any of you who were feeling as desperate as I did can take some hope from it..
My wife dumped me only a few weeks after our wedding. It came as a complete shock, especially as the wedding was such a special day and we had such a wonderful honeymoon. I panicked and did not handle the situation at all well. I had a nervous breakdown, and it made my life hell. At the time, she just told me that she didnt love me anymore. In my heart, I knew that all was not right in our relationship, and there had been a lack of real intimacy between us for some months before the wedding. I thought we could talk about it and sort things out, but unbeknown to me, she had made the decision to leave long before, and had already 'moved on' in her mind before she broke the news to me. Why she went through with the wedding I will never know. Perhaps she wanted to be the centre of attention for a day? Perhaps she didnt want to let her family down, after it cost them so much?
However, in the months after she left me, as I started to pick up the pieces of my life, I also found out a lot of things about my wife. She had been actively pursuing relationships with other men for some time. She had also been entertaining her sexual fantasies by photographing and videoing herself naked and masturbating, something I was very shocked to find (I discovered a CD of her 'work' when I was packing to move out). I suspect that she had been sending and showing these images to other men while we were together.
It took several months for me to build my confidence back, but I can honestly say that I am a stronger and better person for the whole ordeal. I started internet dating about 6 months ago, and have recently met a lovely new lady who shares so much in common with me, and I am happier than I ever have been before.
Fortunately we did not have any children, and so after we sold our house, the divorce was a very straight-forward procedure. It came through a couple of weeks ago, and I take great comfort in the fact that I paid for my half of the solicitors fees with the proceeds I made from selling her 'secret pictures' to an internet amateur porn site. Revenge is indeed sweet. ;)
For those of you that are struggling to see a way through, I can promise you that life does move on. It takes time, and it is a painful journey, but when you have been wronged and cannot forgive or forget, then you deserve so much better, I know I did.
Thanks to those people who helped me on this forum, it got me through some tough times.
Fred
My wife dumped me only a few weeks after our wedding. It came as a complete shock, especially as the wedding was such a special day and we had such a wonderful honeymoon. I panicked and did not handle the situation at all well. I had a nervous breakdown, and it made my life hell. At the time, she just told me that she didnt love me anymore. In my heart, I knew that all was not right in our relationship, and there had been a lack of real intimacy between us for some months before the wedding. I thought we could talk about it and sort things out, but unbeknown to me, she had made the decision to leave long before, and had already 'moved on' in her mind before she broke the news to me. Why she went through with the wedding I will never know. Perhaps she wanted to be the centre of attention for a day? Perhaps she didnt want to let her family down, after it cost them so much?
However, in the months after she left me, as I started to pick up the pieces of my life, I also found out a lot of things about my wife. She had been actively pursuing relationships with other men for some time. She had also been entertaining her sexual fantasies by photographing and videoing herself naked and masturbating, something I was very shocked to find (I discovered a CD of her 'work' when I was packing to move out). I suspect that she had been sending and showing these images to other men while we were together.
It took several months for me to build my confidence back, but I can honestly say that I am a stronger and better person for the whole ordeal. I started internet dating about 6 months ago, and have recently met a lovely new lady who shares so much in common with me, and I am happier than I ever have been before.
Fortunately we did not have any children, and so after we sold our house, the divorce was a very straight-forward procedure. It came through a couple of weeks ago, and I take great comfort in the fact that I paid for my half of the solicitors fees with the proceeds I made from selling her 'secret pictures' to an internet amateur porn site. Revenge is indeed sweet. ;)
For those of you that are struggling to see a way through, I can promise you that life does move on. It takes time, and it is a painful journey, but when you have been wronged and cannot forgive or forget, then you deserve so much better, I know I did.
Thanks to those people who helped me on this forum, it got me through some tough times.
Fred