Need Help, My Wife is having an emotional affair.

[spartan25000]

Here is the situation,

Last summer my wife started talking to a friend of mine. It was just occasional chitchat, completely harmless. They began talking more and more and texting back and forth. Again, I did not think it was anything bad even though it began to make me feel uncomfortable. I never put an end to it back then because I was assured that it was just friendly chat and my wife stays home with our 4 children and has a hard day. I am not always available to talk anytime she likes while I am at work. About three weeks ago, I found out it was much more. Nothing physical has happened between them, but I know he is in love with her and they have talked about their feelings. She cares about him and feels like she is addicted to talking to him. I have asked her to stop, but she can not do it. She says she loves me and does not want to lose me, but does not know how to stop talking to him. He is also getting a divorce and says he wants to be with her. She tells him she will not leave me and does not want to, but cant stop talking to him. I love her very deeply and can not imagine my life without her. How can I get her to stop talking to him so we can began rebuilding our relationship.

[Raymond]

He is making her feel needed Spartan I would think and she probably likes that feeling. However, it is going nowhere and has got on the wrong basis already in his mind. It ought to end. If she cannot do it you have to. Have a word with him if you can and tell him to leave off. Nothing wrong in our wives having friends but this has got on the wrong basis. Make sure you are giving her enough attention so that she is not vulnerable to this kind of thing.

Raymond

[jools]

Spartan - I'm amazed you haven't sorted him out by now!