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6th May 2008, 10:11 PM
Hi..
I am very new to this forum and this is my first post. I have gone through a couple of posts here and feel i can relate to many situations here and it makes me feel a lil better to know i am not alone...
About myself i have been married for 4 yrs now and my problem is there has not been much of a sexual contact between me and my husband....its been a year now that we have gone without any sexual connection whatsoeve.....when we got married my sex drive was hitting the roof and my husband was never interested in it...dont really know why and never got an answer....we had other problems on the top of this and to cut a long story short it took us a while to get into good terms with each other
Today we have this very good 'friendship' going on between us....we understand each other better, he helps me around the house, takes care of me, his family is great nad treat my very well......but there is no intimacy whatsoever.....
I am so confused as to what i should do now....here i am with a husband with whom i dont connect sexually and he is a wonderful person otherwise and only the sex bit is missing....everytime i make myself understand its going to be ok...but i always end up sad and frustrated....dont know how long i can go on like this....
we have tried counselling but never got to the level of doing things that were lil tasks that were given to us..somehow..other things take priority in life...#
He talks about kids ( dont know how thats going to happen), always says its going to be ok and we will get through this...but it breaks me as everyday passes by and we have not progressed even one step.....
Anyways i found this website and thought of sharing...dont really know what to expect...
I am 28 and very scared to lead a life like this as i feel. i will end up breaking my own rules (affair!!):confused:...i dont really want to do it but feel very vulnerable.....
Thanks for reading my post.
Cheers
Confused.com
I am very new to this forum and this is my first post. I have gone through a couple of posts here and feel i can relate to many situations here and it makes me feel a lil better to know i am not alone...
About myself i have been married for 4 yrs now and my problem is there has not been much of a sexual contact between me and my husband....its been a year now that we have gone without any sexual connection whatsoeve.....when we got married my sex drive was hitting the roof and my husband was never interested in it...dont really know why and never got an answer....we had other problems on the top of this and to cut a long story short it took us a while to get into good terms with each other
Today we have this very good 'friendship' going on between us....we understand each other better, he helps me around the house, takes care of me, his family is great nad treat my very well......but there is no intimacy whatsoever.....
I am so confused as to what i should do now....here i am with a husband with whom i dont connect sexually and he is a wonderful person otherwise and only the sex bit is missing....everytime i make myself understand its going to be ok...but i always end up sad and frustrated....dont know how long i can go on like this....
we have tried counselling but never got to the level of doing things that were lil tasks that were given to us..somehow..other things take priority in life...#
He talks about kids ( dont know how thats going to happen), always says its going to be ok and we will get through this...but it breaks me as everyday passes by and we have not progressed even one step.....
Anyways i found this website and thought of sharing...dont really know what to expect...
I am 28 and very scared to lead a life like this as i feel. i will end up breaking my own rules (affair!!):confused:...i dont really want to do it but feel very vulnerable.....
Thanks for reading my post.
Cheers
Confused.com